Wisdom

How to Gently Coax Yourself Out of your Comfort Zone – Happiness Article

“Everything you ever wanted is one step outside your comfort zone.” ~Unknown We’ve all seen this quote or similar ones. All the magic, growth, and transformation seem to happen there. Not everything that happens outside the comfort zone is magical though. So, when we go wandering, leaving the safe shores, we also need to be realistic and aware that mixed in with the good, there’s also potential pain and discomfort waiting for us. Being aware of this, how can we…

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How to Avoid a Soul-Crushing Life Crisis – Happiness Article

“Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an unbelievable breakthrough.” ~Unknown I had hit rock bottom. Now that means different things to different people, so let me explain what my rock bottom meant. I’ll start with my physical health. I was underweight, about twenty-five pounds. My face looked gaunt and scrawny. I was hypertensive, even though I was eating a healthy diet. I also had severe eczema. The itching was so bad that I woke up in the middle…

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Why I Appreciate Simple Things in Life After The Coronavirus – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“It’s not a bad idea to occasionally spend a little time thinking about things you take for granted. Plain everyday things.” ~Evan Davis Let me go back in time. Not too long, but only six months ago when the virus outbreak hadn’t occurred yet. I was cursing the traffic, complaining the beer in a bar was not chilled enough, and hating that the supermarket next to my house did not have my favorite deodorant. Soon after, due to the global…

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A Buddhist Chaplain Shares How to Cope with the Pandemic – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

When I decided over two years ago to become a Buddhist Chaplain, I could’ve never dreamed that I would be experiencing our current pandemic crisis. I chose to become a Buddhist Chaplain after I lost my son in 2010. The experience of losing a child forever changed how I related to the world and how I relate to grief, suffering, and compassion. One of the most profound lessons I learned about grief is that it doesn’t have to follow the…

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What It Means to Love: 9 Steps to a Strong Relationship – Happiness Article

“Be there. Be open. Be honest. Be kind. Be willing to listen, understand, accept, support, and forgive. This is what it means to love.” ~Lori Deschene They say your heart pounds when you’re in love. But the very idea of opening up and letting love in can bring on the wrong kind of palpitations. Saying yes to love… that’s like standing naked, bare naked, every inch of you on show. Completely vulnerable. Or so I thought. My Impregnable Force Field…

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What Hurts Us the Most in Unhealthy and Unloving Relationships – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Once we make our relationship choices in an adult way, a prospective partner who is unavailable, nonreciprocal, or not open to processing feelings and issues, becomes, by these very facts, unappealing. Once we love ourselves, people no longer look good to us unless they are good for us.” ~David Ricco One thing I particularly love is caring about someone and loving them. Being able to do so gives me a great sense of connection, satisfaction, and purpose. It’s fulfilling, life-enhancing,…

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Zooming In and Out to See Where You Want to Go in Life – Self Improvement Article

If you want to get a more “complete picture” of where you are in life and where you want to go, it’s important you know how to zoom in and zoom out your perspective. By “zooming in,” I mean narrowing your focus to a small scale. Focusing on what you are thinking or feeling in the present moment is one way of zooming in. For example, what are you thinking and feeling right now? How do you feel about the…

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How I Know I’m Strong (and You Are Too) – Happiness Article

“If there’s ever a tomorrow when we’re not together, there’s something you should remember: You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we’re apart, I’ll always be with you.” ~A.A. Milne Two years ago, I was anticipating a monumental shift. I couldn’t tell you what had changed around that time, but my mindset was moving away from the brasher side of my natural, projected extroversion…

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How to Appreciate Your Body (During COVID-19 and Always) – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Imagine if we obsessed about the things we loved about ourselves.” ~Unknown I used to have a plaque with this quote prominently displayed in my waiting room. Sadly, it’s somehow gotten misplaced over the years. What I remember most about the plaque was how it engaged, or disengaged, the people who noticed it. Did they mention the quote when they came into my office? Pointedly ignore it? Let me know that self-love is what they want for themselves? Or express…

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15 Things You Should Start Doing Today — Purpose Fairy – Self Improvement Article

Start doing today the things that will create a better tomorrow. Plant today the seeds of Joy, of Beauty, of Wealth, of Confidence, and of Love. And when the time is right, you will saw all the great things that YOU have planted. ~ Luminita Daniela Saviuc Life is a process of becoming. We go through life to find ourselves and to become ourselves. The quality of the things we do today and every day will eventually determine the quality…

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The Challenge of Doing Less When You’re Used to Doing More – Happiness Article

EDITOR’S NOTE: You can find a number of helpful coronavirus resources and all related Tiny Buddha articles here. “I became an overachiever to get approval from the world.” ~Madonna I have spent my entire life looking for more. More to do, more to achieve, and more to see. I have always been a planner—meticulously planning everything from vacations to visits with friends to my life months (or years) ahead. I plan because I’ve always wanted to fit in as much…

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How Acts of Kindness Can Help You Grieve – – Meditation Article

An act of kindnessGrief is an intensely personal experience, with each of us having to find our own way to get through the worst days. There are, of course, methods recommended to help us. For some, formal counselling can provide us with a valuable sounding board and an expert to provide coping mechanisms. For others there’s comfort to be found in our families. However, one strategy that is too often overlooked is kindness.  Kindness, applied in a variety of ways,…

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How to Appreciate Life (Even During a Global Pandemic) – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

EDITOR’S NOTE: You can find a number of helpful coronavirus resources and all related Tiny Buddha articles here. “Life is what happens when you’re busy making plans.” ~John Lennon When I was in my late twenties I went on a trip with my mom and brother to Scotland. Though I was a bit trepidatious about spending so much time with my family, I was excited for the trip too. When it finally arrived, I couldn’t wait to see the gorgeous…

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Quiet Confidence and the Perils of “Trying Too Hard” – Self Improvement Article

When most people picture “confidence” in their minds, they see it as loud and boisterous – but confidence can also be very quiet and reserved. In fact, everyone has their own version of “confidence” depending on their personality. This was a key lesson I had to learn while trying to improve my own confidence over the years. As someone who struggled a lot with low self-esteem and low self-worth when I was younger, confidence was one of my main focuses…

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Why Emotional Validation is More Important Than Giving Advice – Self Improvement Article

When someone comes to you talking about their problems or struggles in life, it’s tempting to want to give advice, support, and try to help them in some way. Most people don’t enjoy seeing others hurting or in pain. However, new research is showing that often the best response to comfort others is simply to validate their feelings without trying to change them or their behavior. Most of the time when people talk about their problems, they aren’t looking for…

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What I Learned About Love and Grief When I Lost My Cats – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Until one has loved an animal, a part of one’s soul remains unawakened.” ~Anatole France Unconditional love. The thought of my cats envelops me with warmth whenever I think of them. Why? Because we’re so connected. It’s an ethereal thing. Beyond words. Beyond reality. Beyond rationality. When I’m holding them, I feel so spiritually connected. They stretch out as I start to scratch their backs, signaling that they like it. A welcome sign I should continue. They stare with their…

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The Beauty Behind the Imperfections — Purpose Fairy – Self Improvement Article

“Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we’re all in this together.” ― Brené Brown After sharing a house for 4 years with my best friend it was time for me to move. We had a great time living in the same place. I have known my friend for almost 6 years at that point – we worked together, we trained together, we shared our food and laughs. But the new chapter of our lives has started with my…

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How Being in a Toxic Relationship Changed My Life for the Better – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars.  You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~C.S. Lewis My ex and I split up about five years ago. We had been married for seventeen years, and after that long, I figured we were home free, as far as lasting marriages go. Needless to say, when it happened, I was devastated. Over all those years of being a couple, I had lost a big part…

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How I’m Finding Hope in the Pandemic – Happiness Article

“We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ~Joseph Campbell It’s hard to believe the state of the world we are in. It feels like 2020 has become the plot of an apocalyptic movie. A microscopic virus invades planet earth targeting human beings. As mass numbers of human beings retreat indoors, wildlife begins to flourish. Slowly, continent by continent, the human bacteria is eliminated. Only…

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14-Day Meditation Challenge: Put Down Your Phone and Be – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Meditation is the ultimate mobile device; you can use it anywhere, anytime, unobtrusively.” ~Sharon Salzberg I came home from my doctor’s appointment last week and rambled off three to four different things that were happening in the world as a result of the coronavirus. By the fourth item my wife asked me to stop. She said please tell me something good. I told her that my doctor said my pathology report came back negative. That the procedure on my neck…

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If You Think People-Pleasing Is Being Kind… – Happiness Article

“I don’t need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better.” ~Plutarch People-pleasing can seem Iike a way of connecting with others. We believe that if we keep people happy, then they’ll like us and want us around. While it may be true that pleasing others will win us approval and a place in their lives, changing and editing ourselves can’t create the connection we long for. We confuse…

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Trauma Can Make Us Sick: How I Found a Key to Healing – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Our bodies contain our histories—every chapter, line, and verse of every event and relationship in our lives.” ~Caroline Myss I could hear my teacher talking, but I wasn’t listening. Staring at the math homework in front of me, I couldn’t get the sound of my heartbeat out of my head. Two times two equals, thump thump, equals thump thump, four. The more I focused on my heartbeat, the louder it became. I could even feel beating in my chest. Noticing…

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How to Take Good Care of Yourself During the Coronavirus Pandemic – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

For more than a week now, I’ve been immersed in how to handle the pandemic that is unfolding all around us. By now, one thing is clear to me. We are either our greatest allies or our own worst enemies at such times. How we react makes all the difference. One friend brought home a three-inch tome all about pandemics, determined to read her way through it. Another began advising everyone on how to correctly make homemade hand sanitizer. Still…

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Deep Down You Know When It’s Time to Let Go – Happiness Article

“Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.” ~Daphne Rose Kingma One of the most challenging things in life is knowing when to let go—when to let go of a job, a relationship, a belief, a repeating thought, a situation… fill in the blank. Most of us have defaulted to safety, which often means procrastinating and generally feeling stuck. While there’s nothing wrong with safety—it is, after all, one of our…

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The Healing Wisdom of Alejandro Jodorowsky – Self Improvement Article

“Psychomagic” is the power of using your imagination and creativity to heal yourself. The term was first popularized by Alejandro Jodorowsky, who is most known for being a Chilean-French filmmaker in the 1970s, with his avant-garde films El Topo and The Holy Mountain. There’s a lot more to Jodorowsky than filmmaking though. He’s worn many different hats over the years including being a poet, artist, novelist, comics writer, musician, philosopher, puppeteer, and mime….to name a few. He oozes creativity and…

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I Used to Be Hungry All the Time – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

I mean, hungry allll the time. Basically, if I was awake, I was ready to eat. I’d mindlessly pick at whatever was available. I’d wander the kitchen feeling “snacky” all the time. I’d be completely consumed with thoughts of what I was going to eat next from the minute I woke up til the minute I went to bed. And behind all the desires to eat were always the arguments—what I wanted to eat versus what I thought I was…

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Why You Should Love Your Imperfect Self – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.” ~Lucille Ball If you were to ask me ten years ago what self-love meant, I would’ve probably said something general like “being happy.” But self-love goes way deeper than that; it involves accepting the past versions of yourself and your present challenges, while giving yourself credit for how far you’ve come. While we may have an idea of the “perfect person” we want to be, sometimes we are so hard on ourselves…

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How to Stop Agreeing to Things That Aren’t Good for You – Happiness Article

“Agreeing to things just to keep the peace is actually a trauma response. When you do this you’re disrespecting your boundaries.” ~DJ Love Light Two years ago, I moved from New England to the Pacific Northwest. It was time for a change, and though I was excited to begin a new chapter of my life, I was sorry to leave my old friends behind. The first year in my new home was hectic. I hopped from hostel to hostel on…

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If You Hate Your Body and Think You Need to Fix It… – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“That girl was fat, and I hate her.” One of my clients said this the other day—about herself. Well, her little girl self. And my heart broke. One of the very first things I do with clients is encourage them to practice self-compassion and kindness—just extending themselves the same basic human compassion and kindness that they would anyone else. Very much the opposite of what most people who struggle with weight and food are used to. After all, when it…

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Unsubscribing From Your Thoughts – Melli O’Brien – Meditation Article

The human mind is a double-edged sword. On the upside, it enables us to plan, solve problems, create goals and work towards our dreams… But the dark side of the human mind is that it also tends to haunt our inner world with unhelpful and painful thoughts. We experience self-criticism, rumination and worry. For many of us, that inner voice can become our own worst enemy, crushing our self-esteem or driving us to feel constantly stressed, negative or anxious. Why…

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