Wisdom

How Empaths Can Stop Sacrificing Their Needs for Other People – Happiness Article

“Sometimes you don’t realize you’re actually drowning when you’re trying to be everyone else’s anchor.” ~Unknown Have you ever felt trapped? No, actually, have you ever felt absolutely paralyzed? Like you’re fearful of making any choices at all? It feels like any step you take could end in utter catastrophe. Five years ago, that was me. I was living in a small, run-down house in Peru, in a city that I didn’t want to be in, far away from family…

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Meditation still is my torch – – Meditation Article

Meditation has been my guiding forceIt has been a long time, well almost more than a year,since I wrote anything on this blog. It was never intentional. But I was so englufed in my life responsibilities that I could not find time for writing. Though, a feeling of guilt is there inside me to know that I have not contributed even a single article here during the past 14 months. Neverthless, it does not mean that I have left meditation…

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Beware of People Who Promise You the World – Self Improvement Article

A friend recently asked me, “What’s a red flag that most people wrongly interpret as a positive thing?” It was a great question and an answer immediately came to mind: those who promise too much. I see people fall for the “over-promising trap” very often. They meet someone who is super nice to them, treats them well, and promises the world to them. Then they inevitably get burned and blind-sided… They think, “I never saw this coming! He was so…

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How to Develop True Confidence (and Let Go of Approval-Seeking) – Meditation Article

What is true confidence? There are a lot of misconceptions about confidence. People sometimes assume it’s a product of achieving something in particular, having nice things or looking a certain way. Some people try to talk themselves into confidence by thinking positive thoughts. But both of those kinds of confidence are both artificial and shaky. What if your looks change or you don’t achieve a goal? What happens when you compare yourself to someone else who seems better? And as…

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How I Found Hope and Inspiration After Years of Quiet Desperation – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.” ~Henry David Thoreau How many years do we live with a sense of quiet desperation, faking the connection we have with ourselves? Why do we deny ourselves authentic living and exchange our time for mindless living? Over the years, life silently and slowly eroded my identity away. By the time my son was twelve years old, I’d completely lost touch with reality.…

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How I Started Enjoying My Alone Time Instead of Feeling Lonely – Happiness Article

“The only way we can change the way we feel is by becoming aware of our inner experience and learning to befriend what is going inside ourselves.” ~Bessel A. van der Kolk Learning to be alone as an adult has been a struggle for me. It’s taken quite a while for me to adjust to spending periods of time by myself. It may sound strange to those who know me because I am most definitely an introvert and need my…

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The Power of Proving Yourself Wrong – Self Improvement Article

One important attitude behind self-growth in any area of life is: always be open to the possibility that you are wrong about something. Because only by admitting you’re wrong can you truly learn, grow, and change yourself. My favorite way to prove myself wrong is to play “devil’s advocate” toward my current beliefs. I assume the opposite of what I believe is true, and I begin to search for facts and evidence that support this opposing view. Often when I…

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Meditation still is my torch – – Meditation Article

Meditation has been my guiding forceIt has been a long time, well almost more than a year,since I wrote anything on this blog. It was never intentional. But I was so englufed in my life responsibilities that I could not find time for writing. Though, a feeling of guilt is there inside me to know that I have not contributed even a single article here during the past 14 months. Neverthless, it does not mean that I have left meditation…

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6 Lessons You Can Learn from The King of the Jungle – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

Yoga is an appointment with your own self. It is time to meet your true self and receive a return ticket to your true nature that is bliss and happiness. You will naturally feel happy while doing yoga. Many people don’t realize they are in a distressed state until it’s too late. The same thing happened with me when I failed to understand my life’s circumstances. I was struggling with a lack of motivation, depression, insomnia, and maintaining my personal…

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10 Hard Truths To Bring More Wisdom Into Your Life — Purpose Fairy – Self Improvement Article

Photo taken in Assisi, ItalySome of life’s hard truths are so simple that many of us have a really tough time accepting them and this only makes our lives more complicated. “There is a feeling which is much more important than happiness, success, or any other sense of achievement in life. It is the feeling of being at home with yourself.”~Rudá Iandê This quote is by the shaman Rudá Iandê. He’s probably the person who has done more to help…

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Living at the Speed of Life – Meditation Article

“Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson Let’s face it—we live in a world where everything seems to be moving fast. It can all start to pass us by in a bit of a blur. How often do we say or hear, “where did the week go” or “oh my gosh it’s October already. What happened?” Life in the ‘Giant Particle Accelerator’ of Our Culture We feel like this perhaps, not because time is…

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The Art of Slow Living: How to Reclaim Your Peace and Joy – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“In today’s rush, we all think too much, seek too much, want too much and forget about the joy of just being.” ~Eckhart Tolle We’re going to start with a visualization exercise. Set a timer for one minute, close your eyes, and reflect on your happiest childhood memories… I was born into a family of wanderers, individuals who held a deeply rooted love of travel, and an even deeper sense of adventure. My happiest childhood memories are the times when…

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The Negative Impact of Not Feeling Your Feelings – Happiness Article

“If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world.” ~Sidney Banks I spent most of my life scared of my feelings. Having feelings and expressing them made me mentally ill—or so I was led to believe by a large number of mental health professionals. When I felt sad, they labeled me as depressed. When I showed any signs of anxiety, they gave me another list of mental health disorders…

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Can’t Shake the Feeling You’re Not Enough? Here’s Why – Meditation Article

In today’s world, sadly, I think most of us feel that we are not enough. We believe our worth is conditional so it needs to be constantly earned. When we operate from this paradigm much of our behaviour can become driven by feelings of shame. We get caught in striving to do more, be more, get more and achieve more because secretly we believe we are not measuring up yet. Living like this is tiring, stressful and unfulfilling. I know…

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Early Experiences That Influence Mental Health – Self Improvement Article

Psychology research is clear that our childhood and early experiences can have a massive influence on our happiness and well-being later in life. While most of this research has focused on how negative experiences can impact our mental health into adulthood (such as poverty, abuse, or neglect), a new study published in the scientific journal JAMA Pediatrics looked into how early positive experiences can influence mental health in a good way. First, this article will review the key findings behind…

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My Favorite Tip to Ease the Pain of Grief – Happiness Article

“It’s also helpful to realize that this very body that we have, that’s sitting right here right now…with its aches and its pleasures…is exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, fully alive.” ~Pema Chodron Many people like to think of grief as an emotional experience. It’s something that dominates your internal, emotional space, and that’s it. But it doesn’t take long when you’re in the thick of grief to experience grief that isn’t emotional at all. You…

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Social Comparison and “Keeping Up With The Joneses” – Self Improvement Article

You don’t measure up with anyone, because you can’t accurately compare yourself to others. One of the ultimate traps in life, especially when it comes to our happiness and well-being, is spending too much time comparing our lives with others and trying to measure it in relation to someone else. We compare ourselves in virtually every area of our lives. We compare each other’s homes. We compare each other’s jobs. We compare each other’s bodies. We compare each other’s relationships.…

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7 Ways Running Helps Me Live My Best Life – Happiness Article

“I don’t run to add days to my life, I run to add life to my days.” ~Ronald Rook Growing up, I was always a bit on the tubby side, or, as my mum would say, “stocky.” Old and grainy camcorder footage from the early nineties shows me at four years old, waddling sassily around the garden naked on a summer’s day. Watching the nostalgic home footage recently, I thought to myself, “Wow, I had a beer belly long before…

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How a Non-Judgemental Mind Connects & Transform Us – Meditation Article

When you first start to meditate, the first thing you discover (if you haven’t already) is the fact that you have a ‘voice’ in your head. Not only do you have a voice in the head, but a voice that never stops. It talks incessantly, from the moment you wake up to the time you go to sleep (and for some of us it won’t even stop then!). This voice, very often, isn’t very helpful. It commentates on our lives…

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Why I’m Trying Harder to Be Kind to Strangers – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” ~Leo Buscaglia From uttering unkind words to sleeping with unkind men, I’ve had many moments of shame in my life. Still, there is one particular moment of shame that stands out from the crowd. It happened at least ten years ago, but I…

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When Someone You Love Is Grieving: How to Really Help – Happiness Article

“The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.” ~Henri Nouwen It’s hard to stand at the edge of someone else’s grief. There’s the awkwardness. You always feel a little like an uninvited guest who arrived late and…

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The Power of Choice – Melli O’Brien – Meditation Article

We make decisions every day—from seemingly inconsequential choices, to larger ones that can affect the course of our lives. Part of the power of Mindfulness is that it allows us to make wiser choices—the ones that lead towards living a more healthy, meaningful and fulfilling life. There is a famous parable about the power of choice. It goes like this: An old Cherokee Indian chief is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said…

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A Step by Step Process That Will Help You Make the Impossible, Possible – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

Deep down, you know exactly what you are capable of. There’s even moments where you get a glimpse of all the potential you have. You can get there. You just have to be willing to sacrifice the habits, things and situations that are standing in the way of your success. I honestly believe “Running to Risk” has the power to unlock mindsets and belief systems that have been holding you back from your true potential (I’m naturally conservative so it’s…

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How to Replace Body-Hate with Self-Compassion – Happiness Article

“Loving yourself is the greatest revolution.” ~Unknown I’ve spent most of my life struggling with my weight and trying desperately to fit the idealistic image of beauty that our culture celebrates. As a young teen, I was obsessed with magazines and all their secrets to be prettier and have a better butt and get your crush to notice you. I see now how desperate I was at such a young age to feel beautiful. Nothing seemed to work, though, as…

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What Do You Really Need Today? – Happiness Article

“Each day is a little life: every waking and rising a little birth, every fresh morning a little youth, every going to rest and sleep a little death.” ~Arthur Schopenhauer About a month ago I came back to my daily meditation practice after realizing I’d been pushing myself too hard, and I was amazed at how easy it was to sit, get into that groove, and just be. I expected to sit for ten minutes, but on this day, my…

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Don’t Be the Person Who Tries to “One Up” Everyone – Self Improvement Article

It’s important for a business to “one up” their competition to succeed, but the same isn’t necessarily true for our relationships. One-upmanship is when someone does or says something in order to show off or prove that they are better than someone else. For example, when someone tells a story to a friend about how they finally got into the college they really wanted to go to, but then the friend responds with, “Oh yeah? Well I just got accepted…

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Mind or Heart, Which One Will You Listen To? — Purpose Fairy – Self Improvement Article

Have you ever gone into something with clashing emotions, your head says yes, but your heart says no? Growing up, all my school autobiographies said I was going to be an artist. Until a distinct shift in 8th grade, when it became “artist or doctor.” From then on, “…or doctor” was tagged on at the end of all my sentences about my future. My parents were both doctors. They were proud of their careers. I knew they meant well; they…

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Don’t Wait to Live – Melli O’Brien – Meditation Article

Lorraine, fondly known as Rainy When I was in my early 20s working in nursing homes, I became very close to one of the residents who was in her 90s, Lorraine. She used to say to me often, “Enjoy every moment. It goes by in a blink”. She also shared with me her own regret that she had lived so much of her life fixated on the future, the next thing, the big goal, the time when it would finally…

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7 Beliefs That Halt Change and Growth in Our Lives – Self Improvement Article

Our beliefs and underlying assumptions about ourselves can have a big influence on how we act each and every day. Often times we may not even be aware of these beliefs, even though we think or say them on a frequent basis. Instead, we just take them as accurate views of the world and we don’t question them as only opinion. One of the most important things to understand when it comes to self improvement is that there are common…

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The Art of Taking a Step Back – Self Improvement Article

When something happens to us in life, our instinct is often to immediately take action and respond to it. Make a mistake at work? Slam the desk. Someone pisses you off? Snap back at them. Want that slice of cake? Grab it and take a bite. Someone cuts you off while driving? Honk your horn and throw up the middle finger. React. React. React. Life is one continuous cycle between things happening to us and us responding to them. And…

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