Loss

When People Want to Help but Just Make Things Worse – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

When I was fourteen years old, my family spent a week of vacation in the northwoods of Minnesota. We rode horses, sailed on the lake, sang songs around a campfire, and all the other things most teenagers tell their parents is lame. Even if they are having fun. After this week of boring, according to me, my family loaded up into our van and began what should have been a five-hour drive home. Except it wasn’t five hours. Thirty minutes…

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My Favorite Tip to Ease the Pain of Grief – Happiness Article

“It’s also helpful to realize that this very body that we have, that’s sitting right here right now…with its aches and its pleasures…is exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, fully alive.” ~Pema Chodron Many people like to think of grief as an emotional experience. It’s something that dominates your internal, emotional space, and that’s it. But it doesn’t take long when you’re in the thick of grief to experience grief that isn’t emotional at all. You…

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When Someone You Love Is Grieving: How to Really Help – Happiness Article

“The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares.” ~Henri Nouwen It’s hard to stand at the edge of someone else’s grief. There’s the awkwardness. You always feel a little like an uninvited guest who arrived late and…

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How to Replace Body-Hate with Self-Compassion – Happiness Article

“Loving yourself is the greatest revolution.” ~Unknown I’ve spent most of my life struggling with my weight and trying desperately to fit the idealistic image of beauty that our culture celebrates. As a young teen, I was obsessed with magazines and all their secrets to be prettier and have a better butt and get your crush to notice you. I see now how desperate I was at such a young age to feel beautiful. Nothing seemed to work, though, as…

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“Our Hearts Are Like the Hogwarts Room of Requirement—They Magically Open Up a New Room Just When We Need It.” – Self Improvement Article

Interview: Nora McInerny A few years ago, Nora McInerny went through tremendous period of grief and loss. Within a month, she miscarried her second baby, her father died of cancer, and then her husband Aaron died from a brain tumor. She explains, “These are all really sad stories, but they are not only sad stories. They are love stories and life stories and sometimes even funny stories.” She has a terrific podcast, Terrible (Thanks for Asking) with honest talk about…

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Sorry For Your Loss (How to express sincere and heartfelt condolences) – Self Improvement Article

0 Nothing is more painful than losing a loved one. There are no words or gestures that seem comforting enough to fill the void created by that loss. That’s why it’s so hard to express our condolences: we know words fall short when it comes to the profound pain and sadness those left behind are feeling. Even so, a heartfelt message that says more than just, “I’m sorry for your loss,” can offer solace to the bereaved and help them…

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This Is How You Lose People

You lose people every time you choose to be dishonest, thinking that they’ll never find out the truth. You lose people every time you decide to be selfish and take advantage of their love for you. You lose people every time you leave them in the dark, thinking they will wait for you forever. You lose people every time you ask them for too much but give so little in return. You lose people every time you stop making them…

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