Helpful Habits

How to Develop True Confidence (and Let Go of Approval-Seeking) – Meditation Article

What is true confidence? There are a lot of misconceptions about confidence. People sometimes assume it’s a product of achieving something in particular, having nice things or looking a certain way. Some people try to talk themselves into confidence by thinking positive thoughts. But both of those kinds of confidence are both artificial and shaky. What if your looks change or you don’t achieve a goal? What happens when you compare yourself to someone else who seems better? And as…

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Living at the Speed of Life – Meditation Article

“Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson Let’s face it—we live in a world where everything seems to be moving fast. It can all start to pass us by in a bit of a blur. How often do we say or hear, “where did the week go” or “oh my gosh it’s October already. What happened?” Life in the ‘Giant Particle Accelerator’ of Our Culture We feel like this perhaps, not because time is…

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Can’t Shake the Feeling You’re Not Enough? Here’s Why – Meditation Article

In today’s world, sadly, I think most of us feel that we are not enough. We believe our worth is conditional so it needs to be constantly earned. When we operate from this paradigm much of our behaviour can become driven by feelings of shame. We get caught in striving to do more, be more, get more and achieve more because secretly we believe we are not measuring up yet. Living like this is tiring, stressful and unfulfilling. I know…

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How a Non-Judgemental Mind Connects & Transform Us – Meditation Article

When you first start to meditate, the first thing you discover (if you haven’t already) is the fact that you have a ‘voice’ in your head. Not only do you have a voice in the head, but a voice that never stops. It talks incessantly, from the moment you wake up to the time you go to sleep (and for some of us it won’t even stop then!). This voice, very often, isn’t very helpful. It commentates on our lives…

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The Power of Choice – Melli O’Brien – Meditation Article

We make decisions every day—from seemingly inconsequential choices, to larger ones that can affect the course of our lives. Part of the power of Mindfulness is that it allows us to make wiser choices—the ones that lead towards living a more healthy, meaningful and fulfilling life. There is a famous parable about the power of choice. It goes like this: An old Cherokee Indian chief is teaching his grandson about life. “A fight is going on inside me,” he said…

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Countering the Negativity Bias – Melli O’Brien – Meditation Article

Imagine you do a presentation at work and then everyone in your team has to give you feedback. If five of those people compliment your work and one person criticises it which will you remember later? Which one could keep you up at night ruminating about it? The criticism gets highlighted in our mind because of what is known as the negativity bias. Why Do Our Minds Highlight the Negative? This bias towards the negative is completely normal. As the…

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Don’t Wait to Live – Melli O’Brien – Meditation Article

Lorraine, fondly known as Rainy When I was in my early 20s working in nursing homes, I became very close to one of the residents who was in her 90s, Lorraine. She used to say to me often, “Enjoy every moment. It goes by in a blink”. She also shared with me her own regret that she had lived so much of her life fixated on the future, the next thing, the big goal, the time when it would finally…

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