Happiness

How Empaths Can Stop Sacrificing Their Needs for Other People – Happiness Article

“Sometimes you don’t realize you’re actually drowning when you’re trying to be everyone else’s anchor.” ~Unknown Have you ever felt trapped? No, actually, have you ever felt absolutely paralyzed? Like you’re fearful of making any choices at all? It feels like any step you take could end in utter catastrophe. Five years ago, that was me. I was living in a small, run-down house in Peru, in a city that I didn’t want to be in, far away from family…

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“I Wanted to Be in a Field that Could Promote Creativity, Joy, Connection, and Living to One’s Highest Potential.” – Personal Development Article

Interview: Steven Hayes. Steven Hayes is Nevada Foundation Professor in the Behavior Analysis program at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. He’s extraordinarily prolific—author of 44 books and nearly 600 scientific articles—and his career has focused on understanding human language and cognition and the alleviation of human suffering. He developed the Relational Frame Theory, an account of human higher cognition, and has guided its extension to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), a popular evidence-based form of psychotherapy…

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The Weight of Emotional Clutter (Plus, 4 Concrete Steps to Clearing It Out) – Happiness Article

I’ve struggled for most of my life with this recurring thought: “No one really sees or appreciates the things I do.”I can vividly remember venting this frustration, with tears filling my eyes, to a mentor of mine as early as my mid-teens. And it only became more pronounced when I started my career, got married, and had children. (Toddlers are not known for articulating their heartfelt thanks!)But over the last few years, I’ve begun to recognize this internal narrative as…

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5 Hard Questions that Can Save a Life (and Spare Some Pain) – Happiness Article

We waste our lives waiting for ideal paths to appear in front of us. But they never do. Because we forget that paths are made by walking, not waiting. There’s nothing more disheartening than a perfectly healthy, reasonably affluent human being with the whole world in her hands who’s chronically unhappy and unproductive. There’s really no excuse for it either, yet Marc and I see this phenomenon unfolding every single day—people who choose to be stuck in misery and refuse…

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“Having a Non-Verbal Activity Feels Essential, and As, These Days, Do Non-Digital Activities.” – Self Improvement Article

Interview: Amy Waldman. Through mutual friends, I’ve known Amy Waldman for years. When I first met her, she was a reporter with the New York Times (which she did for eight years, including three years as co-chief of the South Asia bureau). Then she changed her writing path to become a novelist, and her first novel, The Submission, was a national bestseller. Now Amy has a new novel that has received a huge amount of buzz: A Door in the…

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How To Talk To Your Functional Medicine Doctor About Your Labs – Happiness Article

We in functional medicine know that health is a complex and dynamic force. Someone who appears to eat a junky diet may have glowing health because of the positive influences of a low-stress lifestyle, a supportive social group, and lots of exercise. Someone else may eat like a health rock star, throwing back kombucha and kale salads on a daily basis, but may be withering from loneliness or the crushing stress that can trigger serious health issues. Even if we…

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When Self Love Comes Calling – Happiness Article

It makes good sense to figure out how to love yourself. After all, at the end of the day, that’s all we can really control when it comes to love. It’s impossible to make someone else love you, no matter how hard you try – but we always have control over the love – and the hate – we give. So why is it so hard to really, truly, madly, deeply extend a bit of the love that we’ve got…

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How to Develop True Confidence (and Let Go of Approval-Seeking) – Meditation Article

What is true confidence? There are a lot of misconceptions about confidence. People sometimes assume it’s a product of achieving something in particular, having nice things or looking a certain way. Some people try to talk themselves into confidence by thinking positive thoughts. But both of those kinds of confidence are both artificial and shaky. What if your looks change or you don’t achieve a goal? What happens when you compare yourself to someone else who seems better? And as…

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A Happiness Booster: Flying Through the Air in a Bamboo Grove (by the Magic of Photography) – Happiness Article

Earlier this year, my sister Elizabeth (also co-host of the Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast) and I went for a visit to the Golden Door spa in California, and we had a wonderful sisterly time there. So when the Golden Door suggested that I participate in an advertising spread they were planning, I was intrigued—especially when I learned that the photographer was Alexi Lubomirski. Lubomirski is a very well-known photographer who’s perhaps best known for taking the official photographs of…

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How to Make Life Simple Again – Personal Development Article

Life gets a lot simpler when you clear the clutter that makes it complicated. Bring your attention back to what’s important, and move forward with your life. Your days fill up so fast, and they are so rushed and packed with distractions—sometimes they literally seem to be bursting at the seams. I know exactly how you feel. This used to be my life too. Before I started simplifying my life, I was being pulled in dozens of different directions every…

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What No One Tells You About Becoming a Mother – Happiness Article

You can find plenty of practical information out there about pregnancy and parenting, but what about the emotional rollercoaster and identity shift that occurs for many women and their partners when they have a child? We don’t talk much about it—and if we do, it’s usually in the context of postpartum depression. We need a new model to think about the transition to motherhood. That’s the focus of the new book What No One Tells You: A Guide to Your…

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Q&A With Tim — On Happiness, Dating, Depressive Episodes, and Much More (#390) – Self Improvement Article

Welcome to another episode of The Tim Ferriss Show, where it is my job to sit down with world-class performers of all different types to tease out the habits, routines, favorite books, and so on that you can apply and test in your own life. This time, we have a slightly different episode. As many of you know, I tested a “fan-supported model” earlier in the year, but I ended up reverting back to ads. That’s a long story, and…

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Bill T. Jones Performs Poet Ross Gay’s Ode to Our Highest Human Potentialities – Brain Pickings – Happiness Article

“Before I was born out of my mother, generations guided me,” Walt Whitman wrote in Song of Myself, envisioning his unborn self as the product of myriad potentialities converging since the dawn of time — “the nebula cohered to an orb” and “the long, slow strata piled” to make it possible. A century and a half after Whitman, Ross Gay — another poet of uncommon sensitivity to our shared longings and largehearted wonderment at the universe in its manifold expressions…

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4 Powerful Techniques to Lose Fat Fast (And Sustainably) – Happiness Article

In the following article, I will be covering several topics that ‘cutting fat’ encompasses. For example, I will present exercise as a modality, as I have done in the past, namely due to the fact that it has substantial research and evidence to back it’s clear results.What you should not look for in this article is a ‘magic pill’ or shortcut that will fast-track you to losing weight and cutting fat. Why? Because if such a pill even did exist,…

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How I Found Hope and Inspiration After Years of Quiet Desperation – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Most men lead lives of quiet desperation and go to the grave with the song still in them.” ~Henry David Thoreau How many years do we live with a sense of quiet desperation, faking the connection we have with ourselves? Why do we deny ourselves authentic living and exchange our time for mindless living? Over the years, life silently and slowly eroded my identity away. By the time my son was twelve years old, I’d completely lost touch with reality.…

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“The TED Interview” podcast kicks off season 3 – Happiness Article

The TED Interview launches its newest season on October 9, 2019. Last season notably featured Bill Gates, Monica Lewinsky and Susan Cain — and you can expect another thoughtful lineup of scientists, thinkers and artists for the new season. Season 3 features eight episodes, during which head of TED Chris Anderson will continue to inspire curiosity with in-depth conversations on our consciousness, the ways we navigate community and the power of embracing paradox. During Season 3, Harvard psychologist Dan Gilbert…

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6 Ways to Adopt a Holistic Approach in Your Everyday LifePick the Brain – Personal Development Article

The ways we say, eat, think, practice, and believe and the impacts we make on the lives of others are all reflections of how we choose to live our life. A holistic approach to our mind, soul, and body cannot just transform our well-being and health, but it can bring benefits to our relationships. It is because a holistic approach keeps us more patient, loving, understanding, and stress-free.  Below are six simple ways you can do every day to add…

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How I Started Enjoying My Alone Time Instead of Feeling Lonely – Happiness Article

“The only way we can change the way we feel is by becoming aware of our inner experience and learning to befriend what is going inside ourselves.” ~Bessel A. van der Kolk Learning to be alone as an adult has been a struggle for me. It’s taken quite a while for me to adjust to spending periods of time by myself. It may sound strange to those who know me because I am most definitely an introvert and need my…

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How These 9 Simple Actions Can Help You Feel Happier (& Get More Grit!) – Positivity Article

By Caroline Adams Miller, MAPP When I entered the positive psychology field, one of the embryonic areas was called “positive interventions,” which was the identification of actions that could boost a person’s emotional flourishing. The list of proven interventions that worked for most people was small at that time, but ten years later, dozens of countries have produced thousands of pieces of research on what works to amplify our well-being. Now the popular terminology for this area is “wise interventions,”…

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It’s not about duration—It’s about frequency. – Happiness Article

It was 7pm and my 6-year-old was in the middle of her 20 millionth meltdown of the day. (Or at least, it darn well FELT like that many!)I suggested she take a bath and get ready for bed—to which she responded like I had suggested we pull out some teeth just for the heck of it!I looked at her tear-stained face and her giant, red-brimmed hazel eyes and had this suddent moment of clarity…“Hey Quinn!” I said, with considerably more…

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11 Fat Burning Foods That Help Loose Weight & Boost Metabolism – The Happiest Blog – Happiness Article

Exercise and physical activity is vital to losing weight but no matter how much you hit the gym, nothing spectacular is going to come out of all that hard work if you are not switching to a healthy diet. What “fat burning” foods can do to your body is just remarkable. They don’t really “burn” fat. Their secret is that they manage your weight by boosting your metabolism and digestion, making you full so that you are not hungry all…

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Quit Setting Goals! | Connie Podesta – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

By Hall of Fame Speaker Connie Podesta All right – don’t start sending me hate mail! Let me say first, if you are a goal setter and that is absolutely working for you – stop reading. This is not the post for you. This post is for everyone out there who may feel a little – or a lot like I do. The ones who feel like setting goals can be constrictive. Restrictive. Binding. Limiting. Forced. Uncomfortable. A confidence-killer. Hear…

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Fear of Freedom – Jack Kornfield – Happiness Article

People often prefer a very limited, punishing regime—rather than face the anxiety of freedom. — Jean-Paul Sartre Along with the joy of freedom is a fear of the unknown. Freedom can be both exhilarating and unnerving. The conflict runs deep. When a rabbit runs free, it has to watch for the hawk. Huntergatherers feared going too far afield, knowing they might encounter wild beasts or danger from other clans. Gandhi said, “Freedom is not worth having if it does not…

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The Ultimate Guide to Finding Your Passion – Self Improvement Article

I’ve been helping people find and follow their passion since 2009.I’ve noticed the same questions come up over and over again.And the answers always remain the same.The truth of the matter is that you already have the answers; you’re just getting in your own way.How? By thinking too much. Trying to figure things out. Forcing progress. The trying to force things to happen gets in the way of things happening.If that doesn’t quite make sense, or you don’t quite believe it, keep…

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4 Reasons You Need to Keep Doing Hard Things to Be Happy, Healthy and Successful – Happiness Article

You need to do hard things to be happy, healthy and successful. Because the hard things ultimately build you up and change your life. If you already feel like you’re at the end your rope today with little slack left to hold on to, realize your mind is lying to you. It has imprisoned you by reciting self-defeating stories in your head—stories about your mistakes and what you should have done differently. And you’ve begun to believe that you’re really…

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The World is Counting on You to Go After Your Calling – Happiness Article

I recently read Parker Palmer’s book, Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation, a beautiful meditation on trusting our experience to guide the way to our true calling. Rather than telling your life what you intend to do with it, Palmer suggests, you must “listen for what it intends to do with you.” Reflecting on his own encounters with self-doubt, deep depression, jubilant triumphs, and unrelenting inner inquiry, he paints a portrait of a personal journey that…

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What I Read This Month: September 2019 – Happiness Article

For more than two years now, every Monday morning, I’ve posted a photo on my Facebook Page of the books I finished during the week, with the tag #GretchenRubinReads.  I get a big kick out of this weekly habit—it’s a way to shine a spotlight on all the terrific books that I’ve read. As I write about in my book Better Than Before, for most of my life, my habit was to finish any book that I started. Finally, I realized that…

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What Helps Kids Thrive Under Extreme Adversity? – Happiness Article

Preschoolers’ ability to regulate their attention, behavior, and emotions has been linked with their capacity to cope with difficult situations and thrive in the classroom. But most research into how children develop these skills—known as “executive functions”—has taken place in high-income countries like the United States. A new study led by Stanford Graduate School of Education professor Jelena Obradović identifies several factors that appear to promote these skills in children from parts of the world with high rates of poverty,…

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