Happiness Habits

How Empaths Can Stop Sacrificing Their Needs for Other People – Happiness Article

“Sometimes you don’t realize you’re actually drowning when you’re trying to be everyone else’s anchor.” ~Unknown Have you ever felt trapped? No, actually, have you ever felt absolutely paralyzed? Like you’re fearful of making any choices at all? It feels like any step you take could end in utter catastrophe. Five years ago, that was me. I was living in a small, run-down house in Peru, in a city that I didn’t want to be in, far away from family…

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The Weight of Emotional Clutter (Plus, 4 Concrete Steps to Clearing It Out) – Happiness Article

I’ve struggled for most of my life with this recurring thought: “No one really sees or appreciates the things I do.”I can vividly remember venting this frustration, with tears filling my eyes, to a mentor of mine as early as my mid-teens. And it only became more pronounced when I started my career, got married, and had children. (Toddlers are not known for articulating their heartfelt thanks!)But over the last few years, I’ve begun to recognize this internal narrative as…

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5 Hard Questions that Can Save a Life (and Spare Some Pain) – Happiness Article

We waste our lives waiting for ideal paths to appear in front of us. But they never do. Because we forget that paths are made by walking, not waiting. There’s nothing more disheartening than a perfectly healthy, reasonably affluent human being with the whole world in her hands who’s chronically unhappy and unproductive. There’s really no excuse for it either, yet Marc and I see this phenomenon unfolding every single day—people who choose to be stuck in misery and refuse…

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How To Talk To Your Functional Medicine Doctor About Your Labs – Happiness Article

We in functional medicine know that health is a complex and dynamic force. Someone who appears to eat a junky diet may have glowing health because of the positive influences of a low-stress lifestyle, a supportive social group, and lots of exercise. Someone else may eat like a health rock star, throwing back kombucha and kale salads on a daily basis, but may be withering from loneliness or the crushing stress that can trigger serious health issues. Even if we…

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When Self Love Comes Calling – Happiness Article

It makes good sense to figure out how to love yourself. After all, at the end of the day, that’s all we can really control when it comes to love. It’s impossible to make someone else love you, no matter how hard you try – but we always have control over the love – and the hate – we give. So why is it so hard to really, truly, madly, deeply extend a bit of the love that we’ve got…

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A Happiness Booster: Flying Through the Air in a Bamboo Grove (by the Magic of Photography) – Happiness Article

Earlier this year, my sister Elizabeth (also co-host of the Happier with Gretchen Rubin podcast) and I went for a visit to the Golden Door spa in California, and we had a wonderful sisterly time there. So when the Golden Door suggested that I participate in an advertising spread they were planning, I was intrigued—especially when I learned that the photographer was Alexi Lubomirski. Lubomirski is a very well-known photographer who’s perhaps best known for taking the official photographs of…

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What No One Tells You About Becoming a Mother – Happiness Article

You can find plenty of practical information out there about pregnancy and parenting, but what about the emotional rollercoaster and identity shift that occurs for many women and their partners when they have a child? We don’t talk much about it—and if we do, it’s usually in the context of postpartum depression. We need a new model to think about the transition to motherhood. That’s the focus of the new book What No One Tells You: A Guide to Your…

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Bill T. Jones Performs Poet Ross Gay’s Ode to Our Highest Human Potentialities – Brain Pickings – Happiness Article

“Before I was born out of my mother, generations guided me,” Walt Whitman wrote in Song of Myself, envisioning his unborn self as the product of myriad potentialities converging since the dawn of time — “the nebula cohered to an orb” and “the long, slow strata piled” to make it possible. A century and a half after Whitman, Ross Gay — another poet of uncommon sensitivity to our shared longings and largehearted wonderment at the universe in its manifold expressions…

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4 Powerful Techniques to Lose Fat Fast (And Sustainably) – Happiness Article

In the following article, I will be covering several topics that ‘cutting fat’ encompasses. For example, I will present exercise as a modality, as I have done in the past, namely due to the fact that it has substantial research and evidence to back it’s clear results.What you should not look for in this article is a ‘magic pill’ or shortcut that will fast-track you to losing weight and cutting fat. Why? Because if such a pill even did exist,…

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“The TED Interview” podcast kicks off season 3 – Happiness Article

The TED Interview launches its newest season on October 9, 2019. Last season notably featured Bill Gates, Monica Lewinsky and Susan Cain — and you can expect another thoughtful lineup of scientists, thinkers and artists for the new season. Season 3 features eight episodes, during which head of TED Chris Anderson will continue to inspire curiosity with in-depth conversations on our consciousness, the ways we navigate community and the power of embracing paradox. During Season 3, Harvard psychologist Dan Gilbert…

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How I Started Enjoying My Alone Time Instead of Feeling Lonely – Happiness Article

“The only way we can change the way we feel is by becoming aware of our inner experience and learning to befriend what is going inside ourselves.” ~Bessel A. van der Kolk Learning to be alone as an adult has been a struggle for me. It’s taken quite a while for me to adjust to spending periods of time by myself. It may sound strange to those who know me because I am most definitely an introvert and need my…

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It’s not about duration—It’s about frequency. – Happiness Article

It was 7pm and my 6-year-old was in the middle of her 20 millionth meltdown of the day. (Or at least, it darn well FELT like that many!)I suggested she take a bath and get ready for bed—to which she responded like I had suggested we pull out some teeth just for the heck of it!I looked at her tear-stained face and her giant, red-brimmed hazel eyes and had this suddent moment of clarity…“Hey Quinn!” I said, with considerably more…

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11 Fat Burning Foods That Help Loose Weight & Boost Metabolism – The Happiest Blog – Happiness Article

Exercise and physical activity is vital to losing weight but no matter how much you hit the gym, nothing spectacular is going to come out of all that hard work if you are not switching to a healthy diet. What “fat burning” foods can do to your body is just remarkable. They don’t really “burn” fat. Their secret is that they manage your weight by boosting your metabolism and digestion, making you full so that you are not hungry all…

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Fear of Freedom – Jack Kornfield – Happiness Article

People often prefer a very limited, punishing regime—rather than face the anxiety of freedom. — Jean-Paul Sartre Along with the joy of freedom is a fear of the unknown. Freedom can be both exhilarating and unnerving. The conflict runs deep. When a rabbit runs free, it has to watch for the hawk. Huntergatherers feared going too far afield, knowing they might encounter wild beasts or danger from other clans. Gandhi said, “Freedom is not worth having if it does not…

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4 Reasons You Need to Keep Doing Hard Things to Be Happy, Healthy and Successful – Happiness Article

You need to do hard things to be happy, healthy and successful. Because the hard things ultimately build you up and change your life. If you already feel like you’re at the end your rope today with little slack left to hold on to, realize your mind is lying to you. It has imprisoned you by reciting self-defeating stories in your head—stories about your mistakes and what you should have done differently. And you’ve begun to believe that you’re really…

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The World is Counting on You to Go After Your Calling – Happiness Article

I recently read Parker Palmer’s book, Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation, a beautiful meditation on trusting our experience to guide the way to our true calling. Rather than telling your life what you intend to do with it, Palmer suggests, you must “listen for what it intends to do with you.” Reflecting on his own encounters with self-doubt, deep depression, jubilant triumphs, and unrelenting inner inquiry, he paints a portrait of a personal journey that…

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What I Read This Month: September 2019 – Happiness Article

For more than two years now, every Monday morning, I’ve posted a photo on my Facebook Page of the books I finished during the week, with the tag #GretchenRubinReads.  I get a big kick out of this weekly habit—it’s a way to shine a spotlight on all the terrific books that I’ve read. As I write about in my book Better Than Before, for most of my life, my habit was to finish any book that I started. Finally, I realized that…

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What Helps Kids Thrive Under Extreme Adversity? – Happiness Article

Preschoolers’ ability to regulate their attention, behavior, and emotions has been linked with their capacity to cope with difficult situations and thrive in the classroom. But most research into how children develop these skills—known as “executive functions”—has taken place in high-income countries like the United States. A new study led by Stanford Graduate School of Education professor Jelena Obradović identifies several factors that appear to promote these skills in children from parts of the world with high rates of poverty,…

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Shelley on Poetry and the Art of Seeing – Happiness Article

“Poetry… reproduces the common universe of which we are portions and percipients, and it purges from our inward sight the film of familiarity which obscures from us the wonder of our being.” By Maria Popova “We hear and apprehend only what we already half know,” Thoreau wrote in contemplating the crucial difference between knowing and seeing. To apprehend reality unblinded by our preconceptions, to truly see rather than pre-know, takes a special receptivity, a special channel of perception that bypasses…

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Does Apple Cider Vinegar Help Weight Loss? – Happiness Article

Few foods are as storied as the apple. Thanks to its widespread availability, it may not seem like a very exotic fruit, but it’s still significant to people and cultures all around the world — not just as a healthy staple, but as a mythological symbol (and an icon of science, as well).Part of the fruit’s fame lies in its versatility. From its sweet derivatives (like applesauce and apple juice) to the tangy (like apple cider vinegar), this gem of…

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The terrifying now of big data and surveillance: A conversation with Jennifer Granick – Happiness Article

Concerns are growing around privacy and government surveillance in today’s hyper-connected world. Technology is smarter and faster than ever — and so are government strategies for listening in. As a lawyer for the ACLU, Jennifer Granick (TED Talk: How the US government spies on people who protest — including you) works to demystify the murky legal landscape of privacy civil rights, protecting our freedom of privacy against government and private interests. We spoke with her about the battle against government…

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The Negative Impact of Not Feeling Your Feelings – Happiness Article

“If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world.” ~Sidney Banks I spent most of my life scared of my feelings. Having feelings and expressing them made me mentally ill—or so I was led to believe by a large number of mental health professionals. When I felt sad, they labeled me as depressed. When I showed any signs of anxiety, they gave me another list of mental health disorders…

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The Promise of Living Clutter-Free – Happiness Article

This morning I walked into our house after a jog and felt this immense gratitude for the place that’s the staging ground for so many of our family memories: Home. Granted, most of the time, the pillows are on the ground, homework is on the coffee table, and the floors are covered with crumbs, but it’s easily tidied, and it works WELL for us. ❤️ I absolutely believe that this RELIEF and freedom are available to anyone. You just have…

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Summer of Color Giveaways, Brought to You by Darrell Lea! – The Happiest Blog – Happiness Article

The Color Run and Darrell Lea Liquorice have teamed up to light this summer UP with 10 weeks of colorful, fun, and tasty prizes that we can’t wait to share with you. These 10 weeks will be leading up to the GRAND PRIZE: a flyaway trip for two to NYC to join us at The Color Run in the ‘Big Apple’. We know you don’t know all of the weekly prizes yet, but we promise – there is something here…

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Audio: Letting Go Meditation – Jack Kornfield – Happiness Article

The art of living wisely requires us to learn to let go. But how can we do so? Sometimes we need more love or forgiveness. This teaching and meditation will help show the way. Letting go does not mean losing the knowledge we have gained from the past. The knowledge of the past stays with us. To let go is simply to release any images and emotions, grudges and fears, clingings and disappointments that bind our spirit. Like emptying a…

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5 Reasons My 90-Year-Old Grandma Smiled on Her Deathbed – Happiness Article

“You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.”― Mae West Fifteen years ago, I was lucky enough to witness the humble, elegant, peaceful passing of my 89-year-old grandpa. As I sat quietly in his hospice room alongside my grandma and other family members, his nurse smiled softly and said, “I can see he lived well. People his age often pass just the way they lived.” And as I drove home that evening, a couple questions…

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Earth Day Is a Mindset – Embrace It Fully – – Happiness Article

Earth Day is coming. For some, it is just another day. For others, it is a day of activism. An opportunity to contribute to making the world a better place. For many, it is a sad reminder of the perilous state of our environment that reinforces a sense of powerlessness against the forces that are destroying our precious planet. But quite often, after the day is over, the passion fizzles and we return to our complacent ways, oblivious to the…

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