Uh-Oh! – Ignatian Spirituality – Spiritual Article

When my grandson was just learning to communicate, “Uh-oh!” was one of his standby phrases. This is pretty common for young children, but what struck me was that he didn’t utter it only when something “bad” happened. Whenever there was any transition, such as going from one room to the next or getting in and out of the car, he would say, “Uh-oh!” It was cute, but I wonder if sometimes I respond the same way to potential or real…

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Healing the Addiction to Fixing and Rescuing Others — Purpose Fairy – Self Improvement Article

“The empath rescuer has learned that taking responsibility for other people’s actions and rescuing them is a sure way of receiving love and attention.” ~ Luminita D. Saviuc The Addiction to Fixing and Rescuing Others The empath rescuer has learned early on in life that taking responsibility for other people and rescuing them from their actions is a sure way of receiving love and attention. Therefore, they give so much of themselves away to the point of self-sacrifice. Blinded by…

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A Slip of the Tongue – Self Improvement Article

A couple of months ago while showering I felt a lump the size of a jellybean just under my armpit. My heart immediately started pounding, and my mind immediately started racing. I had Dan feel it, and he, too, was obviously concerned. I made an appointment with my doctor for later that day, and he ordered an ultrasound for later that week. I did my best to put it out of my mind and was thankful that I had extra…

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5 Ways To Bounce Back From Failure And Rejection – Self Improvement Article

Think back to the last time you were rejected by someone special or failed at something you worked hard on. How did it make you feel? Like bricks falling on your chest? You must have then been told cliche statements like,  “Failure is the stepping stone to success.” But does knowing this automatically fix how you feel?  When we face major rejection or failure, things seem like they’re spiralling out of our control. Your self-esteem and self-worth take a major…

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7 Truths about Our Emotional Needs – Positivity Article

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Introvert Whisperer / How to be a More Spontaneous Introvert – Career Development, Self Improvement Article

These days it seems that anyone short of a social media “influencer” can declare “I’m an extraverted introvert!” It’s like a sugarcoated way of saying “I’m normal, but I’d like to appear nuanced.”We’ve all had days when we feel shy. But for a true introvert, getting out and trying new things is a big challenge. If you’re reading this, maybe you know what that’s like. Breaking the ice and getting comfortable going “off-plan” can be hugely liberating, but it’s…

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The Most Common Fears in America and How You Can Overcome Them – Self Improvement Article

The word “fear” often bears a very negative connotation. It’s seen as an emotional response that holds us back, puts us on edge, and breeds discomfort. At its core, though, fear is actually a force of good. It’s a biological response that keeps us safe whenever we perceive danger. So, while fear gets a bad wrap, it’s more of a misnomer than anything. A true frivolous fright is called a “phobia”. A recent survey conducted by Sofary revealed the most common…

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When You’re Afraid of Making Mistakes – Self Improvement Article

If you make a mistake, you could ruin your chances of living the life you want. One single mistake and you’re done. It’s essential that you get everything perfect before you start. Right? No. Somewhere along the way, we took a wrong turn. We learned to believe that mistakes are to be avoided like the plague. We learned that perfection was essential, because only then would we be guaranteed success, and happiness. But life doesn’t work like that. There is no perfection. There is…

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When You Feel Like a Fraud – Self Improvement Article

We’ve all been there. You feel like you’re putting on a show. You’re afraid that someone will see through your mask. You’re scared of being humiliated. The story goes on and on. It’s excruciating. I know, because I’ve been there. I’ve wanted to give up in frustration. I’ve battled my inner demons. Luckily, there is a way out. When You Feel Like a Fraud — The Video We’re all human. That means we experience the full rainbow of thoughts and emotions. The answer has never been…

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The 8 Core Excuses Standing Between You And Your Dreams – Self Improvement Article

We all have our excuses. They feel unique to each one of us, but in reality, we all deal with the same core excuses. Excuses are imaginary walls standing between you and your dreams. They can keep you from writing that book, picking up your guitar, starting a blog, or traveling the world. If following your passion was easy, everybody would skip right along to the good stuff. The more real your excuses seem, the more you’re onto something meaningful.…

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A Sneak Peek of My First Novel – Self Improvement Article

I’ve created something new, and I’m both excited and nervous to share it with you. I wrote a novel called The Breakdown, which I’ll be releasing this summer! And…it’s part of a 3-book series, which will all be released by the end of next year! So this is good news, right? I’m a writer, and I’ve written something that I’m proud of, that I can fully stand behind. I feel that I’ve given the main character a voice that needs…

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What to Do When You Can’t Figure Life Out – Self Improvement Article

Don’t know what you want? Don’t know where to go? Don’t even know where to start? On top of all this, you may feel like you need clarity, and you need it now. Yet the problem isn’t what you think it is. It’s not your job to figure your life out. It’s your job to live life, and to do the best you can in this very moment. Doesn’t make sense, does it? That’s why we’ll dive deeper into this,…

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The Key Ingredient to Your Success – Self Improvement Article

Image Credit: Twenty20.com It always seems to happen the same way. You start a new habit. It’s a great habit. It’s making your day better. In fact, it seems like it will improve your life. If only you could remain consistent. Consistency is the thing that stands between us and achieving the goals we talk about wanting so much. There could be any number of reasons why you don’t feel self-motivated enough to remain consistent with new habits. One reason…

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Moving Away from Fear to Faith — Purpose Fairy

“Just because you can’t see it doesn’t mean it isn’t there. You can’t see the future, yet you know it will come; you can’t see the air, yet you continue to breathe.” ~ Claire London Faith is an absolute belief in the unseen, and hope for the puzzle pieces in life to align together. The challenge many of us face throughout our days is living in faith vs fear. It’s like there is a battle waging within us constantly. WE…

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How to Stop Worrying About Money (and Overcome a Scarcity Mindset)

I used to worry about money constantly. I was gripped by the fear of poverty, and not having enough money. But that is quickly becoming a thing of the past. My mindset is transforming from scarcity to abundance. In this article, I’ll share what I’ve discovered, and my journey to overcoming my fear of not having enough money. Before we begin, remember: This isn’t about how the digits in your bank account line up. This is about how you relate…

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12 Steps to Overcome Spiritual Depression (or the Dark Night of the Soul)

Does life suddenly feel meaningless and empty? Do you feel hopeless about the future? Are you low on energy, and don’t feel like doing anything? Then you may be in what many refer to as the dark night of the soul, which is a period where everything feels hopeless and meaningless. I’ve gone through something similar. In this article, you’ll discover how I got through that time, and how I managed to turn it into a positive experience. What I…

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When You Feel Like Nothing is Happening

There are times when I feel like nothing is happening. I don’t feel inspired to do much. I don’t feel like writing. I don’t have ideas for books. I don’t know what to do, or what’s coming. Sometimes it even feels like my life is falling apart. However, deep down, I know that something is building up. It always is. Just because I feel like nothing is happening doesn’t make it so. Life is constantly changing. There is always something bubbling beneath the seemingly…

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Why Life Doesn’t Turn Out the Way You Want

“It is the great north wind that made the vikings.” – Scandinavian Proverb Have you noticed that your life doesn’t always turn out the way you want? In fact, more often than not, you don’t get what you want. Or.. You don’t get what you think you want. This is a good thing. It’s life nudging you in the right direction. It’s life showing you where you need to grow, and what you need to release, to become the person…

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A Guide to Dealing with the Dark Side of Personal Growth

If you meditate, or do any kind of effective personal growth work, you may eventually run into some sticky territory. Namely, you’ll have to face the darkness within you. Personal development is not just about positivity and utopia. Eventually, if you’re doing the work, you will have to embrace the things you’ve been avoiding. It is only by traveling through this “darkness” that you find peace and equanimity. I’ve written about going through depression and my own dark night of the…

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When You’re Afraid of Putting Yourself Out There

Have you ever avoided taking action because you were afraid of putting yourself out there? The tension between wanting to hide and wanting to succeed is a feeling I know all too well. But I also know that if I want to do work I love, I have to go out there and actually do something. I can’t let other people, or my fears, control my life. Yes, you may face negativity when you start a business, write, or whatever it is…

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Forget Finding Your Passion and Purpose (Read This If You’re Stuck)

Trouble finding your passion or purpose? Stuck? Or just plain confused? If so, you need to stop trying to find the perfect passion or purpose. If you’ve been trying, and you’re stuck, it’s time to try something else. It’s time to discover what works for you. What Am I Talking About? I wrote a book called Find Your Passion: 25 Questions You Must Ask Yourself. Am I now saying that what I wrote is useless? No. For many, answering the questions in…

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A Systematic Way to Stop Worrying

Do you let worry stop you from pursuing your dreams? Worry held me back for a long time. Deep down, I wanted to follow my heart, my interests, but I was held back by the thoughts dancing in my head. It was like an unstoppable virus. But eventually I found the antidote. I found the answer. In this piece, I share what I’ve discovered. Let’s start by making sure we’re on the same page. What is Worry? Worry is a…

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When You Feel Like You Have No Direction in Life

Do you feel lost? No purpose? No passion? No idea where to go? This may surprise you, but here’s what I’ve discovered: You don’t need to have a direction, purpose, or passion, to fully enjoy life. You can dance in uncertainty and let life live itself through you. These are not just empty words. I know uncertainty, fear, and worry. I know confusion. I’ve been in the deepest darkness, and I’ve found my way to the light. So let’s dive into…

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5 Steps to Handling Life When Things Get Rough

Do you secretly ache for something more? Do you celebrate the miracle that is your life or are you constantly running, frustrated by the never-ending to-do list at home and at work? When life is not going our way, it can be hard to look on the bright side. And what about the people who tell you “It’s all good” when your life is in a state of overwhelm, collapse, or just plain sucks. What’s good about it? The key is to realize…

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3 Deceptively Simple Ways to Overcome Your Fears

What are you scared of? Oh, don’t shake your head and say, “Nothing!” We are all scared of something – it could be fear of something real like mice and cockroaches or fear of the possibility of something going wrong – like feeling humiliated while addressing a crowd.  In this article, you will be taken through a three step process of understanding why you are scared of something, what to do about it and finally how to overcome it. 1. It’s…

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How to Choose Between Two Passions or Business Ideas

Do you have a tough time making a choice? Worried that you’ll make the wrong one? You’re not alone. This is common and to be expected. That said, it doesn’t have to be the norm. You don’t have to drive yourself insane over the choices in your life. For the longest time, I had trouble making decisions. I wasn’t sure how to move forward. Time and time again, I ended up drowning myself with information. I searched for certainty, but never seemed…

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Want to win at life? Start doing this right now!

You want to motivate your child to do well in his/her 12th standard exams. How do you think you should do it? Should you tell your child how difficult life will be without a good education, or how great things can be with a good education? Many parents (and bosses and teachers and people in general), tend to take the first approach, but here is research that says that the first method might actually be more effective. Did you just…

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5 Ways To Beat Procrastination Like A Boss

I have so much to do! I have emails to answer, lectures to prepare, and clients’ problems to solve and on top of all this a big presentation at work! You know what the worst part is? People assume I am magically immune to procrastination, just because I am a psychologist. But hey, I’m still a person and at times I get overwhelmed, or plain bored with all the work I need to do. But the difference between me and…

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The Introvert’s Guide To Public Speaking

So, there’s this project at work you’ve been working really hard on. Your boss loves the idea and everything is going great until s/he tells you to present the idea to the whole team tomorrow. You’ve created the slides and proofread them twice, but every time you think of the presentation, your head feels light and you get a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. What are you afraid of? That you’re a quiet, reserved person and not…

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A Psychologist Reveals How Your Mind Tricks You Every Day

I was once asked if I liked what I wrote. I said I have different phases, I like my writing in some phases and don’t like my writing in some phases. Huh? Let me explain. I’m working on this children’s book, a series of short stories for children. In the beginning, as I was writing the first few stories, I was mentally rehearsing my Booker Award Speech, and I was all like, “Wow, this is going to be SO great!”…

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