Balancing Positive and Negative Emotions – Positivity Article

Positive Psychology’s relationship to emotions One criticism of Positive Psychology (PP) has been that it focuses too much on positivity and neglects the reality of suffering as part of human experience. This results from a misperception of what PP is really about. The emergence of PP was indeed a reaction to a historical overemphasis in psychological research, theory and practice on psychopathology or what goes wrong with us. However, examining and promoting what goes right with us does not mean…

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5 Ways to Build Resilience and Conquer Adversity – Personal Development Article

A couple of weeks ago, I was doing market research on mental health apps, downloading anything onto my phone related to relieving stress, anxiety, depression, and so on. I wanted to see what’s going on in that part of the industry and if maybe I wanted to drop a bunch of money into a sinkhole trying to make one myself. Most of the apps advertise themselves as “self-care” apps. They have cute and fancy names intentionally misspelled by one letter. They…

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A Buddhist Chaplain Shares How to Cope with the Pandemic – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

When I decided over two years ago to become a Buddhist Chaplain, I could’ve never dreamed that I would be experiencing our current pandemic crisis. I chose to become a Buddhist Chaplain after I lost my son in 2010. The experience of losing a child forever changed how I related to the world and how I relate to grief, suffering, and compassion. One of the most profound lessons I learned about grief is that it doesn’t have to follow the…

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How to Support Teachers’ Emotional Needs Right Now – Happiness Article

At the end of March, our team at the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, along with our colleagues at the Collaborative for Academic, Social, and Emotional Learning (CASEL), launched a survey to unpack the emotional lives of teachers during the COVID-19 crisis. In the span of just three days, over 5,000 U.S. teachers responded to the survey. We asked them to describe, in their own words, the three most frequent emotions they felt each day. The five most-mentioned feelings among…

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What Happens When We Lose Our Social Rituals? – Happiness Article

When the shelter-in-place orders came down in California, the first thing I thought of was my cousin’s wedding—the one I was supposed to officiate. I’d been working on creating a special ceremony since the fall. But once the pandemic kicked in, everything was cancelled. Perhaps my cousin is luckier than some—after all, a wedding can be rescheduled. Even so, he had to let go of a cherished dream of when and how his wedding would take place. He’s certainly not…

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Boost Your Happiness in 2 Minutes

A fellow Conscious Growth Club member connected me with the simple practice of doing an easy pose for two minutes as an effective mood booster. I’ve noticed that when I do this pose now and then, it really does make me feel noticeably happier.The pose is very simple. Stand up straight and tall, pull your shoulders back, and rotate your arms so that your palms face forward.Here’s a short video from a chiropractor showing how to do it: This TED…

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How to Deal with Sensory Overload as a Sensitive Person – Happiness Article

Have you ever been told that you are “too sensitive?” If so, you’re not alone. Sensitivity implies a certain heightened reaction to external stimuli: experiences, noise, chatter, others’ emotional expression, sound, light, or other environmental changes. Sensitivity and high empathy are common experiences for many people, but some people experience these qualities to more severe degrees—and don’t realize that they can be hallmarks of Asperger’s, attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), sensory processing sensitivity, and other traits. This essay is adapted from Divergent Mind:…

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The Stun Setting – Steve Pavlina

Lately I’ve been feeling like we’re living through a particular Star Trek: The Next Generation episode.No, not “Contagion” – that’s about a computer virus.Not “Thine Own Self” either, but that’s a good guess.I’m thinking of “The Ensigns of Command.”That’s the episode where Data, the android character, must convince a bunch of stubborn colonists that they need to immediately pack up and leave the colony they worked so hard to build. The human colonists must leave because thanks to a treaty,…

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Three Ways to Boost Your Resilience as a Parent – Happiness Article

Self-care isn’t about being self-centered or selfish. If you’re a parent, taking time away from your usual schedule is one of the best ways to boost resilience and strengthen your capacity to nurture your children. Too often parents are stressed by the demands of raising children—helping with homework, getting them to after-school activities, keeping track of doctor’s appointments. But being overwhelmed isn’t part of the job description. Give yourself permission to reduce stress and be happy—in whatever ways work for…

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Retreating to Truth – Steve Pavlina

People often ask me to help them make decisions. Sometimes these are situations where consciously weighing the pros and cons may be prudent. But more often than not, when the options are presented, it’s reasonably clear what the person would like to do. They’ve already decided. What they’re really asking is how to get aligned with the decision they’ve already made.When someone asks me if they should quit their job, they’ve usually made the decision to quit already, even if…

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If You Don’t Find A Way To Release Your Emotions, They Will Quietly Control Your Life – Personal Development Article

Overthinking how you feel is not healing how you feel. Analyzing the past, tracing traumas to their roots, figuring out who deserves blame, recognizing the circumstances that brought you to where you are today… all of that is great for understanding your problem, but it doesn’t solve the problem. If you feel as though you’re always stuck in negative feeling cycles and nothing can bring you relief, it’s probably because you’re not letting your feelings out in a real way.…

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More Than 300 Have Now Joined Stature

So far 304 people have joined the new character sculpting deep dive since the start of the year, which is terrific to see.You can see the real-time sign-up count at the top of the Stature page if you’re curious… at least during the initial launch. Since today is the last day of the launch discount, I’m sure we’ll see more people joining by the end of the day.This is a truly unique, one-of-a-kind course, especially since we’re co-creating it with…

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Our Best Education Articles of 2019 – Happiness Article

Looking for inspiration to start the new decade off on the right foot? Our most popular education articles of 2019 explore how children develop purpose, how we can best support our students’ mental health and social-emotional development, why we benefit from listening to each other’s stories, and more. And…if you want to put the scientific findings from these articles into practice, check out our new website for educators, Greater Good in Education (GGIE), officially launching on February 20, 2020. In…

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Why Empathy is the Most Important Part of Emotional Intelligence – Personal Development Article

Have you ever seen a 3-year-old child laughing hard at another crying with distress or pain?  If you haven’t, can you visualize a scene like that? How about two grown-ups in a similar scene, a grown-up laughing at another grown-up in pain or sorrow, at least do you remember any movie scenes?As I became privileged to be a father to my son, I started experiencing life differently with his existence and company. Thanks to him, I am convinced that we…

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Swinging the Pendulum – Steve Pavlina

What if you think you need to maintain an old situation that you’re only tolerating for the secondary gains, and you don’t feel you can afford to quit immediately and lose those gains while you seek a better situation?For instance, what if you don’t think you can afford to quit your job and have no income coming in while you search for something better?Or what if you don’t feel you could leave a so-so relationship while you look for a…

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My Best Self Improvement Articles from 2019 – Self Improvement Article

This was a monumental year for The Emotion Machine, which officially turned over 10 years old this year! That’s a whole decade of writing and sharing information about psychology and self-improvement. It’s now time to recap the best article published in 2019. As always, it’s a nice combination of articles covering a wide-range of topics including positive psychology, cognitive psychology, social psychology, mindfulness meditation, and emotional intelligence. Please take a look through and see if there are any interesting articles…

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The Ripple Effects of a Thank You – Happiness Article

Researchers studying gratitude have found that being thankful and expressing it to others is good for our health and happiness. Not only does it feel good, it also helps us build trust and closer bonds with the people around us. These benefits have mostly been observed in a two-person exchange—someone saying thanks and someone receiving thanks. Now, a new study suggests that expressing gratitude not only improves one-on-one relationships, but could bring entire groups together—inspiring a desire to help and…

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How to Break Free of Emotional Eating – Happiness Article

Do you have struggles around eating? If you do, you’re not alone. In the United States, millions of people will fit the diagnosis for binge eating disorder at some point in their lifetime. Many more have less severe eating issues—such as obsessing over calorie counting or feeling shame when they eat “bad” foods—that wreak havoc on their health and happiness. Often, people with problematic eating patterns are worried about their weight and attempt to lose weight by cycling through dieting…

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Your Emotions Will Not Drown You; They Will Save You – Happiness Article

“You weren’t built to be calm, cool, and collected all the time. If you were, it wouldn’t feel so exhausting.”~Ryan O’Connell  There’s a lot of talk nowadays about “highly sensitive people” and “empaths.” It can be difficult for people who don’t relate to these labels to understand, or even believe what more sensitive folks experience. As a culture, we’re just beginning to grasp what sensitivity is and how to manage our energy. What Sensitivity Actually Is It’s easy to get…

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What No One Tells You About Becoming a Mother – Happiness Article

You can find plenty of practical information out there about pregnancy and parenting, but what about the emotional rollercoaster and identity shift that occurs for many women and their partners when they have a child? We don’t talk much about it—and if we do, it’s usually in the context of postpartum depression. We need a new model to think about the transition to motherhood. That’s the focus of the new book What No One Tells You: A Guide to Your…

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The Negative Impact of Not Feeling Your Feelings – Happiness Article

“If the only thing people learned was not to be afraid of their experience, that alone would change the world.” ~Sidney Banks I spent most of my life scared of my feelings. Having feelings and expressing them made me mentally ill—or so I was led to believe by a large number of mental health professionals. When I felt sad, they labeled me as depressed. When I showed any signs of anxiety, they gave me another list of mental health disorders…

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Hey Depressed and Anxious People! Can We Quit It with the Apology Tour? – Wit & Delight – Lifestyle Article

Image Courtesy of @delphinacarmonaHey, fellow anxious and depressive folks! Yeah, you. I’m talking to you. Don’t avoid me like you’re currently ignoring your friend’s email about Maureen’s surprise birthday dinner or that work project that makes your chest clench just thinking about it.You know the drill. An anxious or depressive time = missed appointments, ignored texts, ditched plans. Then following an anxious or depressive time, upon coming up for air from under the covers of avoidance, there’s the apology tour.…

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My Favorite Tip to Ease the Pain of Grief – Happiness Article

“It’s also helpful to realize that this very body that we have, that’s sitting right here right now…with its aches and its pleasures…is exactly what we need to be fully human, fully awake, fully alive.” ~Pema Chodron Many people like to think of grief as an emotional experience. It’s something that dominates your internal, emotional space, and that’s it. But it doesn’t take long when you’re in the thick of grief to experience grief that isn’t emotional at all. You…

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Re-framing experiences using our senses – Positivity Article

Re-framing experiences using our senses: sight, sound, movement and feeling This blog is an exploration into how we experience the world using our senses. It looks at the power of our visual, auditory and kinaesthetic systems to shape how we respond to the world around us. By being aware of this and using our sensory modalities we can re-frame our meaning to improve our reactions. From a personal experience this has helped me understand myself better: why I react as…

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Let People Know When You Are Having a Bad Day – Self Improvement Article

Often times when we lash out or get angry with someone, it’s not the other person’s fault – but our own. We are ultimately responsible for how we respond to other people. When we are angry or frustrated and we take that out on someone else, that’s often due to our own mismanagement of our stress and emotions. Of course it’s “easier said than done.” When you find yourself amped up and heated, it becomes increasingly more difficult to regulate…

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When To Keep Your Mouth Shut and Preserve Your Energy – Self Improvement Article

When someone says a stupid or rude comment in front of you, it’s tempting to want to immediately respond to it. However, often it’s best to just keep your mouth shut and ignore it. Of course, practicing silence is easier said than done. We have a natural impulse to want to defend ourselves when we feel personally attacked or someone says something that offends us. But what good comes when you feel the need to always respond to others or…

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Focus on Sharing More Good News With People – Self Improvement Article

When you talk with people, do you usually share good news or bad news? The answer to this question could make a big difference in how people perceive you overall. While we often say “don’t shoot the messenger” when delivering bad news, the truth is that most people have a hard time separating the message vs. the messenger. In one interesting study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology, researchers conducted 11 different experiments (real and imagined) and discovered that…

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The Art of Taking a Step Back – Self Improvement Article

When something happens to us in life, our instinct is often to immediately take action and respond to it. Make a mistake at work? Slam the desk. Someone pisses you off? Snap back at them. Want that slice of cake? Grab it and take a bite. Someone cuts you off while driving? Honk your horn and throw up the middle finger. React. React. React. Life is one continuous cycle between things happening to us and us responding to them. And…

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7 Simple Ways to Master Your Emotions When Making Decisions – Self Improvement Article

New age, new thought processes, and new ways of living – all three go hand in hand. We are in the 21st century where everything is different from what it used to be a couple of centuries ago. Despite all luxuries, people face more problems today as compared to the previous era. The reason is quite simple – the dreadful lifestyle promoted by hurriedness in life. The speed of life seems to be overtaking even the speed of light. Although…

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How to use Mindfulness to Cope up with Anger at WorkplacePick the Brain- Self Improvement Article

Do you remember how many times you were caught in anger at your workplace? Surely you don’t, as there probably have been so many such instances that you only remember a few. Anger is a negative emotion followed by more anger, stress, frustration and many other unpleasant emotions. It affects you very badly not only mentally but also physically. If you have a tendency to become angry on a regular basis, you’re running with a risk of lots of health…

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