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How to Avoid a Soul-Crushing Life Crisis – Happiness Article

“Sometimes it takes an overwhelming breakdown to have an unbelievable breakthrough.” ~Unknown I had hit rock bottom. Now that means different things to different people, so let me explain what my rock bottom meant. I’ll start with my physical health. I was underweight, about twenty-five pounds. My face looked gaunt and scrawny. I was hypertensive, even though I was eating a healthy diet. I also had severe eczema. The itching was so bad that I woke up in the middle…

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Social Distancing and Spiritual Dirction in the Age of COVID-19 – Spiritual Article

The novel coronavirus COVID-19 is changing how we have meaningful conversations and gatherings — yes, even spiritual direction sessions for a while. Leading experts in the fields of immunology and medicine are advising us to practice “social distancing,” which merely means you are very careful about getting physically close to people when in groups or crowds. It does slow down the spread of the virus, which is great, but we still need to be able to communicate with one another,…

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If You Can Change Your Mind, You Can Change Anything – Positivity Article

Adopting habits with a positive return is one of the most effective self-improvement strategies. That’s why so much advice revolves around changing one’s mind and habits. However, there’s a downside that gets ignored by every habits-expert. The 17th century English poet, John Dryden said it best: “We first make our habits, then our habits make us.”  The beauty of this quote is the duality it expresses. You can read that quote and find confirmation that habits are good for you.…

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Anxiety = Uncertainty x Powerlessness – Career Development, Self Improvement Article

Chip Conley, writing for his Wisdom Well blog, has a great idea for mastering anxiety. If you’ve ever laid awake at night, fretting over something that was going to happen (or was even vaguely possible), you’d give almost anything to make the anxiety go away.  Chip Conley presents a tool that might do just that. Conley writes: “Almost all anxiety can be traced to two sources: ambiguity and a perceived lack of influence. I’ve found when anxiety strikes, I create…

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When You Love Someone, You Don’t Try To Control Them – Self Improvement Article

When you love someone, you trust them to make the right decisions. You don’t freak out whenever they leave the house without you to meet up with a friend or when they’re a little bit late coming home from work — because you know they aren’t doing anything sketchy. You know there’s not some big secret they’re trying to hide from you. You know they would never betray you. They would never do anything to hurt you. That’s why you…

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