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I Am Black. My Life Matters. And This Is What I Need From You. – Self Improvement Article

It’s taken me a while to process the events of the last few days. Much like the black experience in America, these events are complex and difficult to unpack. I have greatly struggled to conceptualize my emotions and I have to admit that I am not okay. On one hand, I have watched scenes of immeasurable strength across the nation that have united people of all races and creeds; it lifts my heart to see so many infuriated by the…

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Everything We Know So Far About ‘Halloween Kills’ – Self Improvement Article

Halloween is not Halloween without Halloween. Fans of the franchise have enjoyed decades of wondering how Michael doesn’t make a peep even when he’s being stabbed, and it’s not over yet! In July 2019, the two last Halloween movies were announced: Halloween Kills and Halloween Ends. This Halloween, Halloween Kills, the newest installation of the film series, will be released. To catch you up, the most recent reboot released in 2018 was set 40 years after the original. Laurie, her…

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Zoom Happy Hours Make Me Want To Convert Into An Introvert – Personal Development Article

The New York Times recently ran an article about how group video calls are frying peoples’ brains. Author Kate Murphy wrote, “The way the video images are digitally encoded and decoded, altered and adjusted, patched and synthesized introduces all kinds of artifacts: blocking, freezing, blurring, jerkiness and out-of-sync audio. These disruptions, some below our conscious awareness, confound perception and scramble subtle social cues. Our brains strain to fill in the gaps and make sense of the disorder.” I felt seen.…

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7 Ways You’re Probably Traumatized By Modern Dating – Self Improvement Article

Modern dating is extremely traumatizing. Connection is obstructed, you’re chastised for getting attached, and the sheer availability of an entire sea of dating apps, profiles and potential mates is enough to drive anyone to the edges of their insecurities. The truth is that the way we date now isn’t really healthy. It’s not that we need to return to outdated standards, it’s that we need to evolve within the new world we have now. Here are the top 7 ways…

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Even When It Feels Endless, Please Remember That This Will Pass – Personal Development Article

While you’re in the middle of a dark night, it feels like the dawn is an impossibility when it is, in fact, an inevitability. Even when it feels endless, please remember that this will pass, in the same exact way that everything else that has temporarily cast a shadow over your life has passed. This will pass and some things will be better. Some will be worse. This will pass and the world will be different, but it is always…

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Even Here, Even Now — You Are Still Exactly Where You Are Meant To Be – Self Improvement Article

Your growth as a person is not contingent upon everything unfolding perfectly. Your growth as a person is not dependent on how seamlessly you can manage all the moving parts around you. It is not going to be the result of whether or not the entire world bends to your will at all times. It will not be born out of your sheer desire to move what’s unmovable, change what’s already been done, or control what’s distinctly out of your…

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When Grief Changes Us | Thought Catalog – Personal Development Article

As you wake up, for just one split second, your mind jumbles your dreams with reality, leaving you unable to distinguish between what is “real” and what occurred only in dreamland. For just a moment, you’re back in an alternate universe, a universe in which your loved one was still alive. They were eating cereal with you at the kitchen table. They were wearing the familiar yellow dress that you remember with such clarity. They hugged you and kissed you…

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The Most Debated Mystery Of Our Time: The Disappearance Of Maura Murray – Personal Development Article

The disappearance of Maura Murray is perhaps the most highly speculated case of the 21st century. It’s been called the “the first crime mystery of the social media age” due to Facebook’s launch 5 days before she went missing. There are numerous podcasts, websites, and docuseries dedicated to finding the truth. Nevertheless, the 16th anniversary of Maura’s disappearance has passed and it remains an unsolved mystery. Maura was born May 4, 1982 in Hanson, Massachuessettes. After graduating high school, she…

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You Will Move On | Thought Catalog – Self Improvement Article

I know that you can’t picture your life without them. It’s not a small thing, a tiny feeling to take lightly. I know that without them, the way your life typically moves and flows changes course in a way you don’t want. I know that they are woven so tightly within the fabric of your life that if they disappeared, you would unravel. The truth is this: Your life will be different. Of course, things will hurt. Parts of your…

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This Is The Type Of Person Each Zodiac Sign Can’t Help But Fall For – Personal Development Article

Aries: The spirited, stubborn one Aries are a sucker for high-spirited types. They want someone that matches their energy without overshadowing it. They want to be the one leading the way, but if someone challenges them or calls them on their crap (in a flirty or honest way), then they can’t resist. They strive for a balance, but they want a partner that pushes them forward, not someone that holds them back. Taurus: The well-polished, popular one Taurus types may…

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Trying To Make Your Life Perfect Is What’s Preventing It From Being Good Enough – Personal Development Article

In life, there’s something called the law of reverse effort. Reverse effort is why sand sits in your palm when it’s open and relaxed, but slips through your fingers when you grip it tightly. It’s why so many people find love when they “aren’t looking for it,” why effortlessness is an element of everything we find truly beautiful. It is why we are told that “easy does it,” and that to let go is to allow good things to blossom…

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If You Don’t Find A Way To Release Your Emotions, They Will Quietly Control Your Life – Personal Development Article

Overthinking how you feel is not healing how you feel. Analyzing the past, tracing traumas to their roots, figuring out who deserves blame, recognizing the circumstances that brought you to where you are today… all of that is great for understanding your problem, but it doesn’t solve the problem. If you feel as though you’re always stuck in negative feeling cycles and nothing can bring you relief, it’s probably because you’re not letting your feelings out in a real way.…

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This Is What It Really Means To Be Kind To Yourself, Because It’s Not As Easy As You Think – Personal Development Article

When we think of kindness, we often confuse it for niceness, and the two are not the same. When we are being nice, we are being placid and non-responsive. We are not aggravating, we are not triggering, we are not pointing out anything important, we are not addressing what needs to be said. We are washing over our natural and essential reactions for the sake of not disrupting someone else’s waters, even if in all honesty, that’s exactly what they…

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Remember That Everything Will Feel Impossible Right Before A Huge Shift Takes Place – Self Improvement Article

When we hit our breaking point and assume we are more lost than ever before, it’s not because everything has spontaneously gone wrong. The breakdown is not a singular event, it is a tipping point. It’s the moment at which we can no longer stay in denial about what’s really going on. We arrive here because we can’t remember the last time we felt good about our bodies, because we’ve had the same relationship problems for years, because the negative…

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You’re Not ‘Crazy’ For Getting Attached, It’s Crazy That We Treat Dating So Casually Now – Personal Development Article

When an almost relationship comes to an end, there’s usually not a definitive breaking point. There’s just drifting, fading, and then, of course, an inquiry. You wonder what happened, what went wrong. You want to understand why, despite sharing such a deep connection, it just wasn’t enough to make a full commitment. It’s usually at that point you’re chastised for being attached. It was nothing, they’ll say, if you get a response at all. It was just a hookup. They told you…

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And This Is When You Will Save Yourself – Self Improvement Article

“Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on and be better for it and run as far as you can in the direction of your best and happiest dreams across the bridge that was built by your own…

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The Truth About Changing Your Life Is That It Is Often Means Doing Less, Not More – Personal Development Article

The beginning of a self-transformation requires action, but the end of it requires something deeper, something harder, something you’ve probably never realized before. While doing more will almost always generate results, there’s an untapped, life-changing magic in doing less. Sometimes, your problems don’t come from what you’re not doing, they come from what you can’t stop doing. To really change your life, you probably need to consume less. You probably need to learn to use what you have, to take a breath and stop…

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It’s Time I Said Goodbye To You – Self Improvement Article

I was driving to work  and saw how much the leaves had begun to change. Their vibrant reds and oranges, scattered on the ground and hanging on the branches. It made me realize I survived another season without you. It’s been over a year since you broke my heart. And to be honest, I feel like a broken record for continuing to talk about you. The fact that you can still bring tears to my eyes on days when I’m…

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When You Really Love Someone, You Never Stop Wanting The World For Them – Personal Development Article

I’m dress shopping today. I wish you were here, picking pretty things for me, making me feel beautiful. You always excelled at making me feel beautiful. I fell in love with you this September. I think you knew it before I did, think you felt the air shift slightly as I tumbled in graceful and glorious denial. I think you had one hand on the small of my back, gently nudging my fall, wanting to see what would happen. Everyone…

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Ranking The Signs From Who Is An Open Book To Who Will Take Their Secrets To The Grave – Personal Development Article

1. Leo A Leo not only has nothing to hide but truly wants to show off everything. They’re confident in who they are, and what they’ve done, so they have zero issues talking about themselves. They don’t really have secrets to keep, because they are just too proud of who they are, and always have a justification if they did something others might find odd. They know they’re great, and they want you to know it, too. 2. Sagittarius Sagittarius’ are…

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A Case For The Grey Area – Self Improvement Article

I wish you could see how special you truly are. Instead, you’re focused on what could have been and sad about what will no longer be. I wish you could see the light that radiates every time you enter a room. Instead, you’re locked away in-between those four walls wishing things didn’t play out the way they did. I wish you could see how brave you are for leaving where you grew up for a chance at a better future.…

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I’m Slowly Learning To Make Peace With My Body – Self Improvement Article

Chances are, you’ve been hard on your body before. Perhaps you’ve had an up and down relationship with your body and food for years. Perhaps you’ve cycled between diets in an attempt to feel better about your body and ultimately about yourself. Perhaps you’ve struggled with bingeing or over-exercising. Perhaps you’ve struggled to accept your body, no matter how much it weighs. Perhaps you’ve even struggled with an eating disorder, or with disordered eating. I hope you know that you’re…

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Six Things To Remember When It’s Time To Actually Move On – Personal Development Article

One, he’s gone. He’s not coming back. He is now a wind passing to your window, forcing you to remember the smell of his breath and the warmth of his palm and the faithlessnes of his lips pressing towards yours. You will remember the feeling of touching his scalp as you scratch his thin hair until he sleeps, you will remember him in every knock on the door, in every missed calls from an unknown number, in every flickering lights…

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He’s Everything You’re Not And I’m Probably Going To Break His Heart – Self Improvement Article

I sneak out of his bed around 3 and gather my clothes from the floor. I don’t bother picking up my heart; I think I’ll leave it there to collect some dust. Maybe it’ll get swept up by the maid on Friday and make its way to the landfill by next week. Outside, I dissolve under the porch light. I miss you. He’s everything you are not, and I hate you, I hate you so very much. Back home, I…

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If You Aren’t Having Fun In Your 20s, You’re Doing Something Very, Very Right – Self Improvement Article

As you’re growing up, you imagine your 20s as this mystical time of life, the “best years,” you’re told by those who have already passed through them. Your concept of it is glamorized by what you see on TV, the characters you love moving through the decade with cocktails and budding careers and witty banter peppered by pop culture references. The world teaches you that your 20s are your throwaway years. The decade in which you should take full advantage…

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In The Aftermath Of A Toxic Relationship – Self Improvement Article

I have never loved anybody as much as I loved him. I thought I had experienced the depths of love and heartache. But with him, it was different. It was frustrating, complicated, exhilarating, and beautiful. I was the truest version of myself with him, raw and unfiltered. He saw every part of me, even the ones I was ashamed of. I never thought I’d see myself being with someone forever until him. However, sometimes, the idea of forever is much…

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This Is How Each Zodiac Sign Lets You Know They Want You – Self Improvement Article

Aries: March 21st-April 19th They don’t take off when things start getting more consistent. Aries are excitable and thoroughly enjoy doing fun things with their partners. Always down for an adventure or a bold way to express how they feel, the beginning of romantic interests is always a favorite for an Aries. However, when things start to settle down and life becomes a little more routine and mundane, Aries can become bored easily and start searching for something more appealing-…

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If You Feel Like Love Is Always Escaping You, Read This – Self Improvement Article

They say that when love is right, it will find you. That if it’s meant to be yours, it won’t run away. That real love that’s destined for you will come whenever it (and you) are ready. But what if it feels like love never wants to stay with you? You’ve poured over the reasons in your mind. You pick the wrong people. You try at the wrong times. You try too hard. You don’t try enough. That you haven’t…

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Here’s Each Zodiac Sign’s June 2019 Horoscope – Self Improvement Article

Beep, beep, beep! Heads up, star lovers. While the heavens are stopping at a rest station for the month, we’ll feel as if the energies here on Earth are loose. Need not worry, however, as the universe is also asking us to pull over and enjoy the scenic view for ourselves this month. Astrologically speaking, June is a pretty chill month we should each be taking advantage of to its fullest extent. Mars is in Cancer until July 1st, which is not…

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Five Terribly Tragic Things Most People Forget About The JonBenét Ramsey Case – Self Improvement Article

“If you tell someone a secret, it’s no longer a secret.” That chilling admission from a precocious child marks a haunting moment in Casting JonBenet, Netflix’s docu-drama revolving around the tragic unsolved murder case of the titular young girl from Colorado in 1996. This child is that girl’s brother. He was portrayed as highly suspect in her murder – despite being of a similar age to his six year old sister. He was later cleared of all charges, as DNA…

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