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Remember That Everything Will Feel Impossible Right Before A Huge Shift Takes Place – Self Improvement Article

When we hit our breaking point and assume we are more lost than ever before, it’s not because everything has spontaneously gone wrong. The breakdown is not a singular event, it is a tipping point. It’s the moment at which we can no longer stay in denial about what’s really going on. We arrive here because we can’t remember the last time we felt good about our bodies, because we’ve had the same relationship problems for years, because the negative…

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You’re Not ‘Crazy’ For Getting Attached, It’s Crazy That We Treat Dating So Casually Now – Personal Development Article

When an almost relationship comes to an end, there’s usually not a definitive breaking point. There’s just drifting, fading, and then, of course, an inquiry. You wonder what happened, what went wrong. You want to understand why, despite sharing such a deep connection, it just wasn’t enough to make a full commitment. It’s usually at that point you’re chastised for being attached. It was nothing, they’ll say, if you get a response at all. It was just a hookup. They told you…

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And This Is When You Will Save Yourself – Self Improvement Article

“Nobody will protect you from your suffering. You can’t cry it away or eat it away or starve it away or walk it away or punch it away or even therapy it away. You have to endure it. You have to live through it and love it and move on and be better for it and run as far as you can in the direction of your best and happiest dreams across the bridge that was built by your own…

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The Truth About Changing Your Life Is That It Is Often Means Doing Less, Not More – Personal Development Article

The beginning of a self-transformation requires action, but the end of it requires something deeper, something harder, something you’ve probably never realized before. While doing more will almost always generate results, there’s an untapped, life-changing magic in doing less. Sometimes, your problems don’t come from what you’re not doing, they come from what you can’t stop doing. To really change your life, you probably need to consume less. You probably need to learn to use what you have, to take a breath and stop…

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It’s Time I Said Goodbye To You – Self Improvement Article

I was driving to work  and saw how much the leaves had begun to change. Their vibrant reds and oranges, scattered on the ground and hanging on the branches. It made me realize I survived another season without you. It’s been over a year since you broke my heart. And to be honest, I feel like a broken record for continuing to talk about you. The fact that you can still bring tears to my eyes on days when I’m…

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When You Really Love Someone, You Never Stop Wanting The World For Them – Personal Development Article

I’m dress shopping today. I wish you were here, picking pretty things for me, making me feel beautiful. You always excelled at making me feel beautiful. I fell in love with you this September. I think you knew it before I did, think you felt the air shift slightly as I tumbled in graceful and glorious denial. I think you had one hand on the small of my back, gently nudging my fall, wanting to see what would happen. Everyone…

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Ranking The Signs From Who Is An Open Book To Who Will Take Their Secrets To The Grave – Personal Development Article

1. Leo A Leo not only has nothing to hide but truly wants to show off everything. They’re confident in who they are, and what they’ve done, so they have zero issues talking about themselves. They don’t really have secrets to keep, because they are just too proud of who they are, and always have a justification if they did something others might find odd. They know they’re great, and they want you to know it, too. 2. Sagittarius Sagittarius’ are…

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A Case For The Grey Area – Self Improvement Article

I wish you could see how special you truly are. Instead, you’re focused on what could have been and sad about what will no longer be. I wish you could see the light that radiates every time you enter a room. Instead, you’re locked away in-between those four walls wishing things didn’t play out the way they did. I wish you could see how brave you are for leaving where you grew up for a chance at a better future.…

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I’m Slowly Learning To Make Peace With My Body – Self Improvement Article

Chances are, you’ve been hard on your body before. Perhaps you’ve had an up and down relationship with your body and food for years. Perhaps you’ve cycled between diets in an attempt to feel better about your body and ultimately about yourself. Perhaps you’ve struggled with bingeing or over-exercising. Perhaps you’ve struggled to accept your body, no matter how much it weighs. Perhaps you’ve even struggled with an eating disorder, or with disordered eating. I hope you know that you’re…

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Six Things To Remember When It’s Time To Actually Move On – Personal Development Article

One, he’s gone. He’s not coming back. He is now a wind passing to your window, forcing you to remember the smell of his breath and the warmth of his palm and the faithlessnes of his lips pressing towards yours. You will remember the feeling of touching his scalp as you scratch his thin hair until he sleeps, you will remember him in every knock on the door, in every missed calls from an unknown number, in every flickering lights…

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He’s Everything You’re Not And I’m Probably Going To Break His Heart – Self Improvement Article

I sneak out of his bed around 3 and gather my clothes from the floor. I don’t bother picking up my heart; I think I’ll leave it there to collect some dust. Maybe it’ll get swept up by the maid on Friday and make its way to the landfill by next week. Outside, I dissolve under the porch light. I miss you. He’s everything you are not, and I hate you, I hate you so very much. Back home, I…

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If You Aren’t Having Fun In Your 20s, You’re Doing Something Very, Very Right – Self Improvement Article

As you’re growing up, you imagine your 20s as this mystical time of life, the “best years,” you’re told by those who have already passed through them. Your concept of it is glamorized by what you see on TV, the characters you love moving through the decade with cocktails and budding careers and witty banter peppered by pop culture references. The world teaches you that your 20s are your throwaway years. The decade in which you should take full advantage…

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In The Aftermath Of A Toxic Relationship – Self Improvement Article

I have never loved anybody as much as I loved him. I thought I had experienced the depths of love and heartache. But with him, it was different. It was frustrating, complicated, exhilarating, and beautiful. I was the truest version of myself with him, raw and unfiltered. He saw every part of me, even the ones I was ashamed of. I never thought I’d see myself being with someone forever until him. However, sometimes, the idea of forever is much…

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This Is How Each Zodiac Sign Lets You Know They Want You – Self Improvement Article

Aries: March 21st-April 19th They don’t take off when things start getting more consistent. Aries are excitable and thoroughly enjoy doing fun things with their partners. Always down for an adventure or a bold way to express how they feel, the beginning of romantic interests is always a favorite for an Aries. However, when things start to settle down and life becomes a little more routine and mundane, Aries can become bored easily and start searching for something more appealing-…

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If You Feel Like Love Is Always Escaping You, Read This – Self Improvement Article

They say that when love is right, it will find you. That if it’s meant to be yours, it won’t run away. That real love that’s destined for you will come whenever it (and you) are ready. But what if it feels like love never wants to stay with you? You’ve poured over the reasons in your mind. You pick the wrong people. You try at the wrong times. You try too hard. You don’t try enough. That you haven’t…

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Here’s Each Zodiac Sign’s June 2019 Horoscope – Self Improvement Article

Beep, beep, beep! Heads up, star lovers. While the heavens are stopping at a rest station for the month, we’ll feel as if the energies here on Earth are loose. Need not worry, however, as the universe is also asking us to pull over and enjoy the scenic view for ourselves this month. Astrologically speaking, June is a pretty chill month we should each be taking advantage of to its fullest extent. Mars is in Cancer until July 1st, which is not…

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Five Terribly Tragic Things Most People Forget About The JonBenét Ramsey Case – Self Improvement Article

“If you tell someone a secret, it’s no longer a secret.” That chilling admission from a precocious child marks a haunting moment in Casting JonBenet, Netflix’s docu-drama revolving around the tragic unsolved murder case of the titular young girl from Colorado in 1996. This child is that girl’s brother. He was portrayed as highly suspect in her murder – despite being of a similar age to his six year old sister. He was later cleared of all charges, as DNA…

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Not A Casual Love Kind Of Girl – Self Improvement Article

You’re not a casual love kind of girl. There’s nothing casual about love to you. Casual means you can just flip a switch on love and turn it on or off. Casual means that you’re not the only one in the relationship. Casual means that at the end of the day, you’re not sure where you stand with that person – is it ok to text good morning? Is it ok to call on your way home from work? Is…

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This Is How Each Zodiac Sign Can Be Better In Relationships – Self Improvement Article

Though you fear commitment when you do make the decision to enter a relationship you tend to want to rush things. You should give the relationship time to evolve if you want to build a healthy, stable, and balanced one. You’re too impatient when it comes to breaking down someone’s walls. Give your partner time to open up and keep in mind that good things take time. Work on letting your guard down yourself, and put aside your fear of…

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I Did Not Want To Forget You, I Did Not Want To Forget Us – Self Improvement Article

There is a certain ambiance in the air. I can’t pinpoint it exactly. I can’t articulate with words what I know it to be. There is familiarity though. There is familiarity in the sense that my soul remembers this feeling. I was once here before. I was once here in this exact setting. It’s imprinted in my mind. The memories awaken from their prolonged rest. I was here before, with you. The ceiling lights flicker on and off. This is…

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How To Fall Out Of Love With Someone Who Doesn’t Love You Back – Self Improvement Article

Love never starts in remarkable ways. It’s the ability to make it last that renders its beauty. I met him and saw ordinariness. That is not the love stories we read about when we indoctrinate ourselves into believing we deserve a prince charming simply for existing. No one must know of my weaknesses and inadequacies. I haven’t been myself for so long now. It’s on days when only rain keeps me company in the hubbub of my mind that I…

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An Open Letter To The Ones Who Did Not Choose Me – Self Improvement Article

I always know something was left unsaid when the insomnia kicks in. Days in a row of waking up between 2 and 3AM. My mouth dry and my fingers heavy. Movement required. Some kind of movement of these thoughts that stay stuck under my heavy tongue and hide in the space between my eyebrow. This very physical tightness from emotions I’ve suppressed below my collarbones. If only you could spend a moment outside of your coma. Your own prison. I…

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White Hoods Are Making A Comeback In The Form Of Red Hats – Self Improvement Article

Since the dawn of civilization, humans have covered themselves with all manner of things, from leaves to animal skins. What we wear has come to represent who we are, where we came from, and where we’re going. The old adage still holds true, “Dress for the job you want, not the one you have now.” When I look in the closet in the morning and select an outfit, I am selecting a persona and a personality for my day. I…

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45 Things To Be Thankful For Right Now – Self Improvement Article

1. The fact that you are here. You are here right now. You are capable of changing your life at any given moment. 2. The quiet seconds, even if they are just seconds. 3. The time that you’ve been given on this Earth. Even if you haven’t been thankful for it all this time. 4. The first five minutes after you wake up in the morning. 5. The last five minutes before you fall asleep at night. 6. The chaotic…

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A Brief History Of All The Times You Didn’t Show Up – Self Improvement Article

Ümit Bulut / Unsplash The earliest memory I have is of the day you left. I was four. It was nearly five years later before I saw you again. You never stayed long on the days you did show up. I don’t remember many of those days. But I do remember the days you weren’t there. When I was nine, we were going to spend the weekend together. You went out to the bar and left me with a babysitter…

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Stay Single Until You Find Someone Who Chases You – Self Improvement Article

Stay single until you find someone who chases you. Stay single until the person you find, you didn’t go out looking for because the best love in your life is the love that you stumble across. It’s not the love you searched for. No, the love that will change your life is the love you never, ever saw coming. Stay single until you find someone worth holding onto. Don’t just hold on for the sake of it. Hold on because…

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The Silent Struggle Of Postpartum Depression

During pregnancy, we spend our time daydreaming about how amazing we are going to be at this parenting thing. We imagine all of the other moms oohing at our flawless breastfeeding skills. We envision them awing at the way our postpartum body looks somehow even better than its pre-pregnancy self. There is this incontestable reassurance that our baby will never cry because we will love it so much that there is no way it could ever be unhappy. Sure, we…

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How To Rediscover Who You Are After A Brutal Breakup

I’ve often pondered: When it comes to breakups, what is the right way to move on? Clean break or remain friends? Rebound or take time to yourself? Immediately activate your Tinder profile or lie low? Obsessively stalk their social media accounts or block them altogether? Change their contact name to “Fuckboy” or delete it altogether? Text them on their birthday or nah? The list goes on and on. The truth is, I’m no stranger to breakups, and while I typically…

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This Is How You Know You’re Falling In Love Based On Your Zodiac Sign

Aries: March 21st-April 19th You know you’re falling in love when you can’t seem to hold your feelings for them back; you can’t help but tell them how you feel. You find yourself excited just by being around them, and you want them to be around you as much as possible—including bringing them along on any adventure you would normally undertake alone because life just seems so much better with them beside you. Taurus: April 20th-May 20th You know you’re…

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If You Want To Change Your Reality, You’re Going To Need To Be Unrealistic

If you really want to have a different life, you are going to have to be able to see beyond your life. Before you can change your habits, you are going to have to change your vision. Before you can change your relationships, you’re going to have to reconcile with yourself. Before you can have a different existence, you’re going to have to believe it’s possible. Sam Laura Brown says it best: if you want a different reality, you’re going…

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