Re-Think “Black Friday” to Tailor the Holiday to Your Values. – Self Improvement Article

Here in the United States, “Black Friday” is the day after Thanksgiving Thursday, and it’s a traditional day to go shopping for holiday gifts. Many people enjoy this tradition, and the excitement and festive spirit of so many people hitting the stores, but some people don’t like the day’s association with spending and consumerism. If you’re in the second group, you can re-think Black Friday to suit yourself. You can create your own individual activity or ritual to give the…

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The Things We Keep – Wit & Delight – Lifestyle Article

Photo Courtesy of Carolina Rodríguez for The Everygirl Summer, it seems, is making me nostalgic. The season of possibility, spontaneity, and play has me spending my days more leisurely, more relaxed, more aware and connected. The season of travel, gatherings, and being social leaves me inspired and longing for more—more adventure, more fun, more purpose. This healthy tension of a relaxed pace and spur of the moment plans is increasing the spontaneity and joy I crave in life, in space,…

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How to Use Quick, Easy Habits to Create and Maintain Outer Order. – Self Improvement Article

In my study of happiness, I’ve realized that for most of us, outer order contributes to inner calm. Easy, quick, regular habits make it possible to manage possessions before they accumulate into clutter. My new book Outer Order, Inner Calm: Declutter and Organize to Make More Room for Happiness offers tips and strategies for tackling clutter. One simple concept from the book that seems to really resonate with people is this: it’s far easier to keep up than to catch up,…

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Declutter Your Life: Quotes that Will Help You Let Go – Self Improvement Article

It may take some time to declutter your life, but it will be time well spent. As you let go, you’ll begin to really understand what matters to you. You will likely notice that the stuff that surrounds you, and demands your attention and energy isn’t as important or meaningful as you think. That’s exactly what happened to me. When we downsized a few years ago from a big house to an apartment less than half its size, I wasn’t…

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Dealing with One of the Most Challenging Forms of Clutter: Paper Clutter. – Happiness Article

Paperwork is one of the toughest forms of clutter to vanquish. Often, it’s much more anxiety-provoking and draining than going through a clothes closet or a desk drawer. To decide what to keep and what to toss, ask: Do you actually need this piece of paper or receipt? What specific use does it serve? Have you ever used it? If you’ve never referred to a category of paperwork, apparently you don’t need it. Will it quickly become dated—like travel or…

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This is the Special Occasion You’ve Been Waiting For – Self Improvement Article

Noticing what you love can help you release what you don’t. If decluttering is hard because you think letting go is hard, start by considering what you know you want to keep. What are your favorite things? Once you’ve identified your favorites, it may be easier to let go of the other stuff. If you have five coffee cups in your kitchen, chances are, one of them is your favorite. Drinking from your favorite coffee cup might brighten your day,…

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Clutter Might Be Making You Sick (+ how to make it go away) – Self Improvement Article

We know that clutter can weigh us down. We know that clutter can distract us. But did you ever think that clutter might be making you sick, or that it could be preventing you from healing? I knew stress made me feel sick and contributed to feeling rundown and overwhelmed, not to mention to MS relapses and symptoms, but I never thought my clutter was stressful, until I took a closer look. My clutter was a constant reminder of my…

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One Simple Way to Declutter Your Mind – Self Improvement Article

Decluttering your mind isn’t usually the first cluttered area that gets your attention. Usually it’s a countertop, junk drawer or an entire garage. I think that’s for the best. When you first start to declutter, I recommend starting with the easy stuff. Getting rid of clothes you don’t wear or extra coffee cups is often easier than an attempt to declutter your mind. Working on the stuff around us is less challenging than working on the stuff within us. That…

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“Making One’s Bed In My Mind Is the Most Direct Road to a Happier Life.” – Self Improvement Article

Interview: Isabel Gillies Now, how do I know Isabel Gillies? The answer is lost in the sands of time. We have several mutual friends, perhaps that’s how. She has had a very interesting, varied career. She is an actor who appeared, among other places, on the TV show Law & Order: Special Victims Unit and in the movie Metropolitan. She’s also a highly successful writer. Her bestselling memoir Happens Every Day: An All-Too-True Story recounts the story of how her first…

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My Outer Order Manifesto for My New Book “Outer Order, Inner Calm.” – Self Improvement Article

One of my favorite exercises is to write a “Manifesto.” No matter what subject I study, I find it helpful to try to distill my ideas into succinct statements of the most important principles. For instance, I’ve done a Happiness Manifesto, a Habits Manifesto, and a Podcast Manifesto. It’s a fun, creative, and clarifying process. So of course as I was writing my new book Outer Order, Inner Calm, I wanted to write an accompanying manifesto. As with all my manifestos,…

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10 Conversation Starters (or Journaling Prompts) to Help You Let Go – Self Improvement Article

These 10 conversation starters (or journaling prompts) will help you let go with more ease. With all of the focus around minimalism, simplicity, decluttering, and capsule wardrobes, it’s easy to believe that a simple life is the dream, but a simple life is not the end goal. We don’t remove clutter, reduce stress, and boycott busyness to have a simple life. We do it to have a life. Letting go doesn’t come naturally for most of us, but there are some things…

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A Yearly Challenge: How to Deal with Post-Holiday Clutter? Here Are My Seven Tips.

I love the holidays! It’s a fun, festive, family- and friend-filled time. It’s also a messy, overwhelming, clutter-creating time. Over the years, I’ve developed some strategies to help deal with post-holiday clutter, and this year I added a few new ones. 1. Each Christmas, my family spends a week in Kansas City with my parents. If possible, I try to do a round of clutter-clearing with each family member before we go. That way, we make room for any new…

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