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How Being in a Toxic Relationship Changed My Life for the Better – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars.  You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” ~C.S. Lewis My ex and I split up about five years ago. We had been married for seventeen years, and after that long, I figured we were home free, as far as lasting marriages go. Needless to say, when it happened, I was devastated. Over all those years of being a couple, I had lost a big part…

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How I’m Finding Hope in the Pandemic – Happiness Article

“We must be willing to let go of the life we’ve planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us.” ~Joseph Campbell It’s hard to believe the state of the world we are in. It feels like 2020 has become the plot of an apocalyptic movie. A microscopic virus invades planet earth targeting human beings. As mass numbers of human beings retreat indoors, wildlife begins to flourish. Slowly, continent by continent, the human bacteria is eliminated. Only…

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14-Day Meditation Challenge: Put Down Your Phone and Be – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Meditation is the ultimate mobile device; you can use it anywhere, anytime, unobtrusively.” ~Sharon Salzberg I came home from my doctor’s appointment last week and rambled off three to four different things that were happening in the world as a result of the coronavirus. By the fourth item my wife asked me to stop. She said please tell me something good. I told her that my doctor said my pathology report came back negative. That the procedure on my neck…

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If You Think People-Pleasing Is Being Kind… – Happiness Article

“I don’t need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better.” ~Plutarch People-pleasing can seem Iike a way of connecting with others. We believe that if we keep people happy, then they’ll like us and want us around. While it may be true that pleasing others will win us approval and a place in their lives, changing and editing ourselves can’t create the connection we long for. We confuse…

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Trauma Can Make Us Sick: How I Found a Key to Healing – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Our bodies contain our histories—every chapter, line, and verse of every event and relationship in our lives.” ~Caroline Myss I could hear my teacher talking, but I wasn’t listening. Staring at the math homework in front of me, I couldn’t get the sound of my heartbeat out of my head. Two times two equals, thump thump, equals thump thump, four. The more I focused on my heartbeat, the louder it became. I could even feel beating in my chest. Noticing…

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How to Take Good Care of Yourself During the Coronavirus Pandemic – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

For more than a week now, I’ve been immersed in how to handle the pandemic that is unfolding all around us. By now, one thing is clear to me. We are either our greatest allies or our own worst enemies at such times. How we react makes all the difference. One friend brought home a three-inch tome all about pandemics, determined to read her way through it. Another began advising everyone on how to correctly make homemade hand sanitizer. Still…

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Deep Down You Know When It’s Time to Let Go – Happiness Article

“Holding on is believing that there’s only a past; letting go is knowing that there’s a future.” ~Daphne Rose Kingma One of the most challenging things in life is knowing when to let go—when to let go of a job, a relationship, a belief, a repeating thought, a situation… fill in the blank. Most of us have defaulted to safety, which often means procrastinating and generally feeling stuck. While there’s nothing wrong with safety—it is, after all, one of our…

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I Used to Be Hungry All the Time – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

I mean, hungry allll the time. Basically, if I was awake, I was ready to eat. I’d mindlessly pick at whatever was available. I’d wander the kitchen feeling “snacky” all the time. I’d be completely consumed with thoughts of what I was going to eat next from the minute I woke up til the minute I went to bed. And behind all the desires to eat were always the arguments—what I wanted to eat versus what I thought I was…

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I Want to Be Rich in Memories – Happiness Article

“My life isn’t perfect, but it does have perfect moments.” ~Unknown Practice was over, the hot Florida sun was settling in behind the tall bleachers, casting golden rays onto the track. Behind me was my dear school, engulfed in beautiful palm trees. “California Girls” was playing through the speakers, and I was laughing with friends at something a teammate said. There, I realized how truly alive I felt in that moment. It was seemingly picture perfect in every way. A…

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5 Moving Tips When Relocating for Work – Margaret Buj – Career Development, Self Improvement Article

Starting a new job is nerve-wracking on its own, so adding moving to the equation can make it feel overwhelming—to say the least. Luckily, relocating for work doesn’t have to be a stressful experience. All it takes is a bit of planning and foresight to help your long-distance move go off without a hitch. That way, you can put your focus back on your new job and make a great first impression! Here are 5 key moving tips to reduce…

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What to Consider When Choosing a College Major – Career Development, Self Improvement Article

The following post is sponsored by Going Ivy.Today, colleges offer a diverse set of courses; it can get tough choosing a college major. Still, if you know the college you want to attend, or what career path you want to take, then it is a straightforward decision. Here is a list of things you take into account as you decide on what you want to major in college.What are Your Abilities and Interests?An ideal college major takes advantage of your…

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How To Get A Job In The Automotive Industry – Career Development, Self Improvement Article

Whether you’re looking for a career change, or you’re entering the working world for the very first time, the automotive industry should not be overlooked. As one of the largest economic sectors worldwide in terms of revenue, there are ample opportunities for job seekers. As with any industry, it can be tough to get started without some guidance. We’ve put together a quick guide on how you can get your start in the automotive industry! Decide what type of career…

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Boost Your Visibility & Leads (On-the-Go Audio) – Career Development, Self Improvement Article

Social Marketing in 2020: Boost Your Visibility & Leads (On-the-Go Audio) Recommend this post You can recommend this post to several users by putting 1 email on each line This is only a snippet of a Career Development, Self Improvement Article written by Laura DeCarlo Read Full Article

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Why You Should Love Your Imperfect Self – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.” ~Lucille Ball If you were to ask me ten years ago what self-love meant, I would’ve probably said something general like “being happy.” But self-love goes way deeper than that; it involves accepting the past versions of yourself and your present challenges, while giving yourself credit for how far you’ve come. While we may have an idea of the “perfect person” we want to be, sometimes we are so hard on ourselves…

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How to Stop Agreeing to Things That Aren’t Good for You – Happiness Article

“Agreeing to things just to keep the peace is actually a trauma response. When you do this you’re disrespecting your boundaries.” ~DJ Love Light Two years ago, I moved from New England to the Pacific Northwest. It was time for a change, and though I was excited to begin a new chapter of my life, I was sorry to leave my old friends behind. The first year in my new home was hectic. I hopped from hostel to hostel on…

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If You Hate Your Body and Think You Need to Fix It… – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“That girl was fat, and I hate her.” One of my clients said this the other day—about herself. Well, her little girl self. And my heart broke. One of the very first things I do with clients is encourage them to practice self-compassion and kindness—just extending themselves the same basic human compassion and kindness that they would anyone else. Very much the opposite of what most people who struggle with weight and food are used to. After all, when it…

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Dealing with Online Hate: What to Do When People Are Mean – Happiness Article

“The less you respond to negative people, the more peaceful your life will become.” ~Unknown I work for a website that creates videos on lifestyle, fashion, food, travel, fitness, and more. Our channel has a massive following from all walks of life, and we receive a lot of love but also a bit of hate. Even though many people are involved in the production of a video (directors, videographers, editors), the comments, feedback, and of course the hate is usually…

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7 Signs Your Parents’ Love Was (and Is) Conditional – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“The beauty of the truth; whether it is good or bad, it is liberating.” ~Paulo Coelho It’s around the time of your mother or father’s birthday. You browse through the card aisles of your local store getting more and more frustrated because you cannot relate to any of the cards you read. You eventually pick out the most generic birthday card you can find and think, “Okay, I’m off the hook until the next holiday.” Celebrations often bring up a…

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What to Do When You’re Stressed, Distressed, or Overwhelmed – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Picture a pattern of upright dominoes that have been positioned just far enough away from one other to highlight the gap between them, but just close enough to hit each other if one of them tips over. Hit a single domino and it sets off a chain reaction. Oftentimes, our own actions, reactions and counter-reactions, criticisms and defensive responses function like dominoes. When we’re not able to access our mindfulness, reactivity takes over.” ~Alicia Muñoz, psychotherapist and author, from Mindful…

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Love Yourself, on Valentine’s Day and Always – Happiness Article

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.” Brené Brown  Growing up I watched my grandparents’ relationship with longing. They anticipated each other’s needs, they did small loving gestures for each other every day, and they put the other fist without resentment. I longed to have a relationship like theirs one day and meet someone who understood me the way they understood each other. In contrast, I observed the relationship between…

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Radical Gratitude: How to Turn Your Pain into Peace – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

My journey to living in gratitude began in 2010. And let me say that up until that time, until I was age forty-five, I was a complainer, griper, and a whiner, with absolutely no reason to complain! Luckily, I was saved from these very wasteful, counter-productive habits when I was given a blank journal one Thanksgiving season by a New Thought minister, who told us if we journaled five things we were grateful for forty days, our life would change…

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How to Reap the Benefits of Meditation Without Meditating – Happiness Article

“Absorb what is useful, discard what is useless and add what is specifically your own.” ~Bruce Lee The benefits of meditation are far reaching and have been well known for centuries. However, the idea of formal meditation doesn’t sit well with some of us. The idea of sitting cross-legged for extended periods and delving inward puts many of us off before we’ve even got started. Even the word “meditation” can be a very real barrier to entry for some. What…

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10 Things I’ve Let Go and How This Has Set Me Free – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“I do not fix problems. I fix my thinking. Then problems fix themselves.” ~ Louise Hay Looking back on my life, I came to understand that perfection was my worst enemy. I was raised in an environment of high expectation, and every day in school felt like I was competing with others and fighting to be the best in class. At the age of ten I believed I was stupid just because my brain couldn’t work out physics and math.…

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When You’re Unhappy and Want Things to Change – Happiness Article

“Sometimes even to live is an act of courage.” ~Seneca This is the first time I am admitting it: I was bullied in school. I was thirteen years old at the time, and it went on for the one year that I lived in Dorm 11. I never acknowledged it because I felt bullying was too small a misfortune to complain about. But now when I think back to it, I can remember exactly how the dormitory looked. I remember…

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How To Make Peace With Your Noisy Mind—7 Tips From An Ex-Monk – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Leave your front door and your back door open. Let thoughts come and go. Just don’t serve them tea.” ~Shunryu Suzuki There are few things more exasperating in life than having a noisy chatterbox in residence between your ears—a busy mind that never stops and won’t leave you in peace for a moment. You are sitting by the pool on your long-awaited vacation. The weather is perfect. Your diary is clear. You settle down on your deckchair with an ice-cold drink and your…

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My “Stress” Was Actually High-Functioning Anxiety – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Anxiety is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far.” ~Jodi Picoult Many years ago, I worked in the technology sector in Austin, Texas, which is a big “tech town.” I was incredibly focused on building my career and earning a higher and higher salary. I also have two daughters, who were in elementary school at the time. I’m divorced and am the primary care giver for them. Like so many…

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Study: Automation Putting US Jobs at Risk – Career Development, Self Improvement Article

A new study is shedding light on which careers and populations are most vulnerable to automation-induced job loss. Using data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics and the University of Oxford’s study on “The Future of Employment,” researchers identified the 170 most at-risk occupations based on their probability of being replaced by machines, robots, and automation. From there, they determined how many potential jobs across America’s workforce and communities are in jeopardy. Key Findings28% (41 million) US jobs are considered most…

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Embodied Trauma Conference: a Free Online Event, Feb 3-8 – Happiness Article

Would you say you’ve experienced trauma in your lifetime? Perhaps it’s an obvious yes—if you’ve fought in a war, you’ve been abused, or you’ve survived a tragic accident or natural disaster. But odds are, even if you haven’t experienced these things, you’ve lived through something traumatic—the death of a loved one, a serious illness, or even a divorce. We all go through harrowing events that challenge and change us. If we don’t face the pain head on, our unhealed traumas…

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Make Money Selling Other People’s Products Online – Career Development, Self Improvement Article

If you are struggling to find a job that brings in enough money to pay the bills don’t despair. You will eventually find one. Thousands of job seekers go through the same thing. You are not alone!Instead of worrying, have you ever thought about putting that energy to better use by starting your own business? Doing so is a great way to learn new skills and make yourself more marketable. Plus, you can make money while running your business. Best…

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How I Found the Gift in My Pain and Let Go of Resentment – Motivational, Self Improvement Article

“Change is inevitable, growth is intentional.” ~Glenda Cloud How much time slips by when you’re living in the pain of resentment? Do you ever question if your bitterness has held you back from living your true destiny? Is blaming everyone else sabotaging your life and future? It’s only now that I can admit to the years I wasted pointing the finger at everyone else. It was easier for me to say it was their fault than accept responsibility for my…

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