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Three Lessons From History – Life Optimizer – Self Improvement Article

Do you want to be your best self? Do you want to become the best that you can be? I just finished Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari. It’s an insightful book that contains many lessons from history. While the lessons are mostly related to nations and cultures, I believe we can apply some of them to our lives as individuals as well. In particular, I’d like to take the lessons from how European empires came…

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17 Factors That Make Up a Mood – Positivity Article

I’m in the midst of working on a very exciting project (can’t wait to tell you about it soon!), and I’ve been listening to makeup videos while I work. I rarely even wear makeup, but there’s something about these videos that just works so well as background noise! All that makeup talk in the background has had me dying to draw makeup things so I was thrilled when I thought of the mood makeup idea the other day. Once I started thinking…

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Living the HSP Life: Tips for Highly Sensitive People – Positivity Article

  Note: A lot of what I learned about Highly Sensitive People (aside from my own personal experience), came from Elaine N. Aron’s book, The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You. If you want to learn more about the info that’s not personal-experience-based, I highly recommend you check it out or visit her site here!    WHAT IS A HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON (HSP)?  Basically, Highly Sensitive People (HSP) is a term developed in the 1990s…

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6 Ways to Shake Things Up – Positivity Article

  For months and months, it felt like a dark cloud was hanging over my head. I don’t know if it was seasonal depression or regular depression or just part of my biological mental ups and downs, but, man, was it rough. I didn’t feel like doing anything, and I didn’t feel like I’d ever get out of that dark fog of what felt like nothingness. But, over the past few weeks, there’s been a shift. I’ve felt something start…

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7 Truths about Our Emotional Needs – Positivity Article

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Regard Yourself as a Cloud – Positivity Article

  Regard yourself as a cloud.  Clouds never make mistakes.  Did you ever see a cloud that was misshapen? Did you ever see a badly designed wave? No, they always do the right thing.  And if you will treat yourself for a while as a cloud or wave, you’ll realize that you can’t make a mistake whatever you do.  Because even if you do something that appears totally bizarre, it will all come out in the wash somehow or…

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Thought-Tinters: 8 Things That Impact Your Thinking – Positivity Article

Get the print here!    Whenever I do interviews, one of the questions I get asked most frequently is, “If you could give out one piece of advice, what would it be?” It’s a tough one to answer, but my instinct is almost always to say, “Pay attention to your thoughts.” It sounds like simple (or perhaps even strange) advice — after all, aren’t we always paying attention to our thoughts if we’re thinking them? But, if you think about it (ha!),…

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Focus on Sharing More Good News With People – Self Improvement Article

When you talk with people, do you usually share good news or bad news? The answer to this question could make a big difference in how people perceive you overall. While we often say “don’t shoot the messenger” when delivering bad news, the truth is that most people have a hard time separating the message vs. the messenger. In one interesting study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology, researchers conducted 11 different experiments (real and imagined) and discovered that…

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Are You Willing to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone? – Life Optimizer – Self Improvement Article

I read the book summary of Hit Refresh recently. It’s an autobiography of Satya Nadella, the third CEO of Microsoft. It tells the story of how the young Nadella was obsessed with cricket and wanted to become a professional player. On the side, he also developed an interest in personal computing. He enrolled in an institute in India and graduated with a bachelor’s degree in electrical engineering. Realizing that being a professional cricket player was not for him, he then decided…

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Your Key to a Better Future – Life Optimizer – Self Improvement Article

Do you want to have a better future? One thing you should do for that is investing. That means making some sacrifice now (e.g. setting aside a portion of your income) for a greater reward in the future (e.g. your retirement fund). The best investment, however, is not a financial instrument. The best investment is yourself. Many people invest financially but forget to invest in themselves. As a result, they don’t reach their full potential. That’s why it’s important that…

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How We Learn From Our Parents How to Respond to Stress and Anxiety – Self Improvement Article

A lot of what we learn in life – including how we regulate our stress and emotions – is picked up by what we observe from others when we are developing at a young age. Our parents and upbringing can play one of the biggest roles in what habits persist later in our lives. This is why paying attention to family patterns is so essential for learning how to improve yourself and changing unhelpful behaviors. If you’re an easily stressed-out…

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A Proven Key to Turning Your Life Around – Life Optimizer – Self Improvement Article

When your life is in a mess, what is the key to turning it around? I thought about it when I read the story of Jon Shafer. Shafer is the lead designer of Civilization V, a video game that was released in 2010. The game was a huge success. But after the game was released, he decided to quit and start his own company. He started working on a game called At the Gates. Unfortunately, things didn’t go well for…

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Here’s Why People Change and How You Can Too – Self Improvement Article

Image Credit: Unsplash I was recently participating in a family event. As I was walking by I heard someone saying: “well what can you do about it… That’s her character, and people can’t change.” The fact that people believe that character and attitude can’t be changed always surprises me. I keep hearing this from people who are considered educated yet with all those university degrees, it feels like some very basic truths are missed. Everything is either growing or disintegrating…

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Why I am a Failure at Everything I do-What Should I do now

I am a failure at everything I do; I feel worthless or I am a loser” – These are your feelings? Before I go into the topic just want to ask one question to you. How do you determine what failure is? What is the standard you consider something as a failure in life? Is it like trying something and not working for the first time? Do you rely only on your luck on success and failure? Then I can’t…

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The Importance of Staying Balanced – Life Optimizer

To live a full life, there is an important principle you need to remember. The principle is stay balanced. Violating this principle will only lead you to misery. There are five aspects of life that you need to keep balanced: Work Health Learning Social Spiritual Unfortunately, many people have what I call “unbalanced success”: they have tremendous success in one or two aspects of their lives but at the expense of the other aspects. To the outsiders, they might seem…

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5 Life Lessons From Having My Wife’s Purse Snatched – Life Optimizer

A few years ago, I had a bad experience: as I was riding a motorcycle with my wife, my wife’s purse was snatched. After realizing what happened (it took me a second or two), I tried to pursue the snatcher. I was overcome with emotion. Worse, my wallet was inside my wife’s purse at that time. Fortunately, I still had my rational mind with me. I thought to myself, “Wait, I can’t be too fast. Otherwise, we could have an accident…

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Developing a Heart of Giving – Life Optimizer

What attitude do you think would make the world a better place? While there might be other answers to this question, I believe that a key attitude is the attitude of giving. You see, almost everything that we read or hear is about getting: getting more money, reputation, or something else. Only occasionally do we read or hear about giving. That’s why I’d like to write about it today. I still have a lot to learn, but I’d like to…

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3 Deceptively Simple Ways to Overcome Your Fears

What are you scared of? Oh, don’t shake your head and say, “Nothing!” We are all scared of something – it could be fear of something real like mice and cockroaches or fear of the possibility of something going wrong – like feeling humiliated while addressing a crowd.  In this article, you will be taken through a three step process of understanding why you are scared of something, what to do about it and finally how to overcome it. 1. It’s…

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Want to win at life? Start doing this right now!

You want to motivate your child to do well in his/her 12th standard exams. How do you think you should do it? Should you tell your child how difficult life will be without a good education, or how great things can be with a good education? Many parents (and bosses and teachers and people in general), tend to take the first approach, but here is research that says that the first method might actually be more effective. Did you just…

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The Mindset for Making the Right Decisions in Life – Life Optimizer

The way you make decisions is essential. After all, your life is just the result of your decisions. So how do you make the right decisions in life? I found something interesting in the book summary of Reinvent Yourself. It says that in order to advance in life, you should make growth-oriented decisions instead of fear-based ones. For example, let’s say that you are in a job that you don’t like. If you decided to stay because you are afraid…

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5 Ways To Beat Procrastination Like A Boss

I have so much to do! I have emails to answer, lectures to prepare, and clients’ problems to solve and on top of all this a big presentation at work! You know what the worst part is? People assume I am magically immune to procrastination, just because I am a psychologist. But hey, I’m still a person and at times I get overwhelmed, or plain bored with all the work I need to do. But the difference between me and…

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The Introvert’s Guide To Public Speaking

So, there’s this project at work you’ve been working really hard on. Your boss loves the idea and everything is going great until s/he tells you to present the idea to the whole team tomorrow. You’ve created the slides and proofread them twice, but every time you think of the presentation, your head feels light and you get a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach. What are you afraid of? That you’re a quiet, reserved person and not…

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My Best Psychology and Self Improvement Articles From 2018

As we approach the upcoming new year, it’s always a great time to take a step back and reflect on what we’ve learned and experienced over the past twelve months. First, let me ask you an important question: “Are you better or worse than you were exactly one year ago today? Or about the same?” I sincerely hope it was a good and productive year for you; but even if it wasn’t, keep in mind this is just one chapter…

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A Psychologist Reveals How Your Mind Tricks You Every Day

I was once asked if I liked what I wrote. I said I have different phases, I like my writing in some phases and don’t like my writing in some phases. Huh? Let me explain. I’m working on this children’s book, a series of short stories for children. In the beginning, as I was writing the first few stories, I was mentally rehearsing my Booker Award Speech, and I was all like, “Wow, this is going to be SO great!”…

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Can You Increase Your IQ? A Neuroscientist Explains

Intelligence, most of us would agree is an extremely abstract concept that individuals possess. Defining intelligence, in itself is a huge task that most academicians have attempted to succeed in. It can be thought of as the ability of a person to learn, adapt and solve new problems, adapt to environments and situations. Having complex sub-components such as cognitive processes; quantifying intelligence is surely not an easy task. However, psychologists have attempted at developing measures for intelligence. The first version…

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Attitude Motivational Video – What Matters

Attitude is how you react or respond to what happens to you in life. Transcript (Attitude motivational video) Many at times, we go through life worrying about things that happened to us, our struggles, our pains, things that don’t go well in our lives as though that’s all that matters. But truth be told, they don’t matter. You might disagree with this, but it doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter that you were laughed at, bullied, insulted, called all sorts of names. It doesn’t matter how…

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Social Transformation 2.0 – Now Accepting New Students Until Sunday, January 13th!

I’m really excited today because I have a huge announcement to make… Social Transformation 2.0 – my online course designed to help individuals overcome their social anxiety, build genuine confidence and self-esteem, and ultimately improve their relationships with both themselves and the world around them – is currently accepting new students! (Enrollment for Social Transformation 2.0 will be open until the end of Sunday, January 13th at 11:59PM EST. Don’t miss out on it!) Overcoming social anxiety was one of…

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6 Research-Based Hacks to Help You Avoid Overeating

So you were at an all you can eat buffet. Before you left home you had vowed not to overeat tonight, and just try small quantities of whatever seemed interesting. By the end of the meal, you need to unbutton your pants and need a few seconds to catch your breath after climbing down the flight of stairs. You overate, AGAIN! Well, here are a few hacks, all backed by research, you can use to not overeat: 1. Hide your…

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