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5 Insanely Actionable Tips to Increase Your Revenue by 20%

Every single business has ‘holes’ in it.  It doesn’t matter if your business is called Tesla, Facebook or Slick Rick’s House of Barbecues… There is a gap between how much money you COULD earn this month and how much money you’ll actually make. I’m not saying your business is broken – I’m suggesting it COULD be making you a lot more money…by the end of the day. The good news is, these holes are easy to plug.  The better news…

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What Are You Hungry For? – Happiness Article

I was born with a voracious appetite for all things. I was deeply hungry for action, friendship, laughter, competition, and of course food and more food. As a child when I sat down to eat I always wanted seconds, and usually thirds if I was eating dinner at my friend Brenna’s house. Throughout the years, food disappeared off my plate quicker than anyone else’s in my presence. Yet it never felt enough and I always wanted more.For years I had one…

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Do Not Despair – Jack Kornfield – Happiness Article

The problem with the world is that we draw our family circle too small.—Mother Teresa Many of us wrestle with our response to the sufferings of the country and the world. What can we do in the face of poverty, disease, war, injustice, and environmental devastation? With the torrent of news, it is easy to despair, to become cynical or numb. The Buddhist approach to this collective suffering is to turn toward it. We understand that genuine happiness and meaning…

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How Uncluttering Changed a Young Mother’s Entire Life – Happiness Article

For more than a decade, my family and I have enjoyed the benefits found in embracing minimalism and living simpler lives. Although we didn’t know what minimalism really was in the beginning, we made a purposeful decision to own (and pursue) fewer possessions. The decision to own less was powerful. It allowed us to focus on what really matters—our family, our faith, and our ability to make a difference in people’s lives. But our little family isn’t the only one…

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Identification with Self – Jack Kornfield – Happiness Article

One of the deepest and most demanding aspects of Buddhist psychology is the experience of non-self. Ajahn Chah said, “You have to consider and contemplate this slowly, you can’t just think about this or your head will explode.” It turns out that it is not just our roles and self-images that are tentative, without solidity. Our very sense of self is at its base untrue, only a concept. Buddhist psychology calls this selflessness or no-self. Ordinarily we identify with our…

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How Social is Social Media? – Happiness Article

It’s been about a month since I deactivated my Facebook, deleted all the affiliated apps, and then blocked Facebook on my computer and phone. In the first few days, I would still type Facebook into my search bar, just out of habit, only to arrive at a screen telling me that the site was blocked. I could have unblocked it at any time but I made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t. Now I know that the next step…

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9 Insanely Actionable Tips to Have Your Best Year Ever in 2020

Growing up, my mother would always tell me, “You’re so impatient.” And she was right. I know that “Good things come to those who wait” (maybe), but I’ve never been one to do much waiting. I want my big projects finished–yesterday. I want results and now. I want to be a “yuugeee” success–no later than tomorrow. Can you relate? Listen… That drive…that hunger…that impatience is what separates you and me from everyone else. While others are content to wait around until the universe…

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Loving Ram Dass – Jack Kornfield – Happiness Article

After I got the call that Ram Dass had died yesterday, I closed my eyes.He is still here.I could feel the vast field of love that was shining from Ram Dass when Trudy and I taught with him just a couple of weeks ago. And I always will. On the final day of this last retreat, called “Open Your Heart in Paradise,” Ram Dass was frail and didn’t have access to many words. But he was there in the most…

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Our Simple Holiday Traditions – Happiness Article

In our home, we love the Holiday season and our family traditions that accompany it. Traditions are important for kids. The Tinkergarten post titled, “How to Grow Happy Kids with Family Rituals” explains it all so beautifully. They have the ability to connect us, give us a sense of belonging, give us structure and to teach us values. That being said, it is often easy this time of year to get far too carried away trying to create the perfect…

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Abundance and Gratitude – Happiness Article

Mistakenly, some people think that Buddhism condemns all desire. But there is no getting rid of desire. Instead, Buddhist psychology leads us from desire to abundance. The Indian sage Nisargadatta, one of my teachers, challenged his students, saying, “The problem with you is not that you have desires, but that you desire so little. Why not desire it all? Why not want complete fulfillment, joy, and freedom?” Nisargadatta did not mean boundless greed. He spoke from the state of consciousness…

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A Merry Minimalist Christmas – Happiness Article

Here it is again. The most wonderful time of the year. Everything is red, white, green, gold, even pink and blue. One can fill their whole phone with saved pictures from the web of rooms filled with the most beautiful decor. From Dr. Seuss Christmas to the glam girl pink Candy Land themed rooms. This season is easily the best time for any company to make its biggest sales out of the year. And here we are, faced with so…

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Gratitude and Wonder – Happiness Article

If we cannot be happy in spite of our difficulties, what good is our spiritual practice? —Maha Ghosananda Gratitude is a gracious acknowledgment of all that sustains us, a bow to our blessings, great and small. Buddhist monks begin each day with chants of gratitude for the gifts of food and shelter, of friendship and for the teachings that benefit all. In the same way, Native American elders begin each ceremony with grateful prayers to Mother Earth and Father Sky,…

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5 Ways to Cultivate a Present Moment Gratitude Practice – Happiness Article

Thanksgiving is a time to reflect on what we are grateful for in our lives. Many families have a tradition of going around the table at the Thanksgiving meal to name something they are grateful for that year, while others may incorporate gratitude in a more structured way as part of their morning or evening routines. Regardless of when we give thanks, the research is clear: expressing gratitude can make you healthier and happier. Yet, like many things that we…

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Awaken the One Who Knows – Happiness Article

As your spacious heart opens, you can rediscover the vast perspective you’d almost forgotten. A spacious heart reveals the spacious mind. This is the mind that, after you’ve stubbed your toe, hopped around, and howled, finally laughs. The mind that, when you are upset with your partner, goes to sleep and wakes up, and sees that what was such a big deal has fallen into perspective. Your spacious mind is the natural awareness that knows and accommodates everything. My meditation…

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The Minimalist Mindset Strategy Guide – Happiness Article

“Momentum begets momentum, and the best way to start is to start.” — Gil Penchina One of the most important actions we can ever take is to craft a calm, centered life. A calm life is intentional, and focused. It results in a life well-lived because it is not tossed about by societal pressures. It is thoughtful, organized, and focused on the things that matter most. And one of the most effective ways to achieve a centered life is to…

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Compassion for Imperfection – Jack Kornfield – Happiness Article

The wise heart brings compassion to imperfection itself. The wise heart is at peace with the way things are. No longerstruggling against the world or lost in it, we rest. The holy qualities of understanding, humility, and a patient caring are our gifts. Our body, speech, and mind become like the Tao, “content with the changing of the seasons.” We become the love we have sought. And in this love we are also returned to ourselves. Zen teacher Edward Espe…

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Shifting Your Perspective Toward a Happier Life – Happiness Article

“The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands but in seeing with new eyes.” – Marcel Proust It happens to all of us. At times we feel stuck. We look around and are not happy with what we see. Our days may seem too short to accomplish all that we have set out to do. Our calendars may be too crowded with activities that we feel obligated to attend. Our hearts may sink a little lower with…

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Down to the Bone – Happiness Article

I am down to the bare bones. Literally. Many of us want to minimalize our busy, crowded lives, but sometimes we are minimized by life’s circumstances. We’re downsized. Victimized. Marginalized. Our experience imprints itself into our faces, our skin, our posture. It has certainly chiseled itself into my bones. In 2016, I began an unexpected journey. A journey of grace and grit. In January of that year, I lost my right arm – my dominant arm- to osteosarcoma, a rare…

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Freedom Amid Challenging Times – Jack Kornfield – Happiness Article

Modern society is periodically rocked by upheavals, whether by assassinations, war, political turmoil, or powerful economic and environmental challenges. In uncertain times the political climate can worsen these fears. Early twentieth-century journalist and social critic H.L. Mencken explained: “The whole aim of politics is to keep the populace alarmed, and hence clamorous to be led to safety, by an endless series of hobgoblins, most of them imaginary.” We are being encouraged to be afraid. When upheavals happen, we can naturally…

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Declutter Your Fantasy Self – Happiness Article

You are not what you own. “Imagination will take you everywhere,” said Albert Einstein, and he was right. As humans, we’re limited in what we know and understand, but imagination transcends all of that. Unfortunately, we tend to bolster our fantasies by buying the props that go with them. Francine Jay, author of The Joy of Less and Lightly, calls this “aspirational stuff.” These are the things we buy to project a certain image, to impress others, or to help…

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7 Keystone Habits that Will Transform Your Life in Less than 6 Months

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.Will Durant The internet is rife with conflicting advice. One guru claims that waking up at 5 am is the key to success. Another considers early rising to be an unnecessary stressor. One expert claims that “Email is dead” another that “Email is King”. Everywhere we turn, we are bombarded by contradictory prescriptions and mandates for achieving the life we want. The reason is simple. All…

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Steady the Mind – Jack Kornfield – Happiness Article

Who is your enemy? Mind is your enemy. No one can harm you more than a mind untrained. Who is your friend? Mind is your friend. Nothing can help you more that a trained mind, not even your loving parents. —Buddha What do we see when we look at our mind? Constant change. The untrained mind spins out thoughts, emotions, images, stories, likes, dislikes, plans, regrets and reactions to it all. There is ceaseless movement, filled with words, ideas, and…

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On The Road to Truth – Happiness Article

We were sitting around the largest conference room table, all 40 of us, when our CEO announced that she had been offered an opportunity at a different company in a different state that she couldn’t pass up.  My face got warm and my eyes filled with tears. She had hired me only 4 months prior. In that short amount of time she’d taken me under her wing and had assigned me a very shiny project. We’d been meeting daily to…

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When Self Love Comes Calling – Happiness Article

It makes good sense to figure out how to love yourself. After all, at the end of the day, that’s all we can really control when it comes to love. It’s impossible to make someone else love you, no matter how hard you try – but we always have control over the love – and the hate – we give. So why is it so hard to really, truly, madly, deeply extend a bit of the love that we’ve got…

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Fear of Freedom – Jack Kornfield – Happiness Article

People often prefer a very limited, punishing regime—rather than face the anxiety of freedom. — Jean-Paul Sartre Along with the joy of freedom is a fear of the unknown. Freedom can be both exhilarating and unnerving. The conflict runs deep. When a rabbit runs free, it has to watch for the hawk. Huntergatherers feared going too far afield, knowing they might encounter wild beasts or danger from other clans. Gandhi said, “Freedom is not worth having if it does not…

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The World is Counting on You to Go After Your Calling – Happiness Article

I recently read Parker Palmer’s book, Let Your Life Speak: Listening for the Voice of Vocation, a beautiful meditation on trusting our experience to guide the way to our true calling. Rather than telling your life what you intend to do with it, Palmer suggests, you must “listen for what it intends to do with you.” Reflecting on his own encounters with self-doubt, deep depression, jubilant triumphs, and unrelenting inner inquiry, he paints a portrait of a personal journey that…

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Does Stuff Make You Less Lonely? – Happiness Article

I have a confession. Decluttering makes me feel lonely. Even when I want to downsize extra stuff, it’s hard. I find myself putting dusty keepsakes back into the same boxes where they have lived for years and walking around in an emotional funk for the rest of the week. But recently I’ve been forced to reexamine those feelings. Our family is going to be moving out of state after spending over a decade living in a sprawling house on rural…

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Lead with the Heart – Jack Kornfield – Happiness Article

The mind creates the abyss, and the heart crosses it.—Sri Nisargadatta When we carefully observe our thoughts, we discover that they are not in our control—we swim in an uninvited constant stream of memories, plans, expectations, judgments, regrets. Observing the mind we see how it contains all possibilities, often in conflict with one another—we have the beautiful qualities of a saint and the destructive capacities of a dictator. The thinking mind continually plans and imagines, creating endless visions, hopes and…

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This is Good Because…. – No Sidebar – Happiness Article

In the life before the current one, the one that was not yet dedicated to rearing a tiny human, there were frequent work peaks that required lots of last-minute activity, long days and nights, frantic multi-tasking, lots of travel. A constant rush of adrenaline would carry me through to the big day, and a beautiful glowy feeling accommodated the drink (and sleep!) after. Recently, one of these events was coming up again – and yet again, it was all there:…

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How a Non-Judgemental Mind Connects & Transform Us – Meditation Article

When you first start to meditate, the first thing you discover (if you haven’t already) is the fact that you have a ‘voice’ in your head. Not only do you have a voice in the head, but a voice that never stops. It talks incessantly, from the moment you wake up to the time you go to sleep (and for some of us it won’t even stop then!). This voice, very often, isn’t very helpful. It commentates on our lives…

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